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[roygbi]

Can girls have guy friends in a relationship?

[LadyZen]

Nope. I don't think so. When Harry Met Sally drove that point home for me.

[BetaTogetha]

Do you mean: can adults be friends with any adult regardless of their romantic relationship status? YES. Mature people can be friends with whom ever, and maintain a completely healthy relationship with a romantic partner. And a healthy romantic partner understands that friendship is important and supports their partner in having active friendships with whom ever they choose.

If a partner doesn’t trust their partner to have a certain kind of friendship then there are larger underlying trust issues within said romantic relationship that need to be addressed.

[TheMeg in reply to BetaTogetha]

^^^ couldn't agree more. As a woman I have had too many experiences with my so called female "friends" getting competitive over everything, especially guys. It got to the point that I am now more comfortable with male friends. I you can absolutely have friends of the opposite gender. You can confide in them and yes, even hug them without it being romantic. The only thing that gets in the way is trust.

[Hidden]

My answer is I think so but it might get complicated. If all are single no problem. For a married person to b friends of opposite gender it might work but jealousy can get stirred up. Alot depends on the self esteem, trust and maturity of the people involved.

[fauxartist]

Yes...of course. I always preferred some of my male friends over most women friends. I’m a straight shooter and hate all the convoluted stuff…I prefer someone just being up front. It’s what I love about kids too...they are honest and up front.

[Hidden]

Not unless there is a complete mutual trust and maturity involved.. Especially with any underlying emotional issues.. So, the short answer is.. No, don't go there..

[CanuckAnon]

I’ve always had more guy friends than women... that hasn’t always gone over well with some previous partners but i’ve always marched to the beat of my own drum... pick your battles is my advice... 😊

[Hidden]

You are not engaged but if you are dating watch the behaviour of your boyfriend. If he flirts with other women or girls then you might feel left out even though it is part of his nature. If he is more interested in other friends while you are there it can be difficult to feel part of his life. You can tell with body language when someone is not putting you first. Take one step at a time. If it is the other way round then he could be jealous and possessive. Have fun . Enjoy yourself .