Unsure and tired

[Gigswer]

Hello I’m reaching out to finally shed some

Light on my state of being overwhelmed all the time. I’m finding myself between panics and depressed periods trying to deal with daily routines/work. I try to stay positive but the biggest hurdle is trying to receive support from my husband. He has anxiety that was diagnosed in his early childhood-so he still has panic attacks and severe anxiety that he will stop everything and stay home from work. I try to support him but my job as a nurse and role as his caregiver becomes exhausting, especially when he is 3-5 days past his peak (stating he feels better) All I want is some form of appreciation or understanding from him that “this” affects me too and I need help/caring for. Does anyone have some advice or tips how to approach this with him? Thanks for your time

[Lylabeagle]

I so empathise with your situation. I have had long periods of time where I have been unable to work due to GAD and severe depression which relates very much back to childhood traumas. My bf has had to pull much more than his weight financially due to my health and this has had a significant impact on us and our relationship. It's such a tough one, one I'm still trying to figure out myself but I do know that both people in this situation really struggle. I would assume, from my personal experience, that this is something he truly struggles with and worries about a lot, you and how you are and how he feels like a 'burden'. This is no one's fault, I think it just comes with the beast that is anxiety. My only suggestion is to be as open as possible, communicate with love, as much as you can and the sooner the better. You both are valid to feel how you do and no one is to blame. Approach with love and that's all you can do, but you must take care of you and express how you are feeling. I hope this isn't too forward at all and is helpful. Sending love

[Gigswer in reply to Lylabeagle]

That was the perfect way to say what we have been missing. Thank you for your kind words and I will try that this weekend