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Hi I'm new to this site.

I'm really struggling with my panic attacks lately, I've had them for years but they have been getting worse lately, I had a bad one in a lecture last week and had to leave, I'm a mature student of 50. I know I have to go back tomorrow and Friday but I'm know it will happen again, does anyone have any advice on how I can sit through 2 hours of lecture and not bolt for the door. I am also suffering from low mood at the minute and that's just making things worse. Any advice would be much appreciated thank you

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I agree with Square251 regarding trying to pinpoint why this is happening.

If I know what's triggering an attack I can calm myself down by rationalizing the fear.

He has done great suggestions as to what might help.

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Sadlady21 in reply to Dolphin14

Yes I agree that seems like some good ideas, I am desperate to get these sorted once and for all as they are so exhausting, panic attacks are really strange I don't get them at home but the minute I'm in a lecture all hell breaks loose which just goes to prove that I must be able to control them, but still my brain let's me down

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Dolphin14 in reply to Sadlady21

Sounds like something going on in that classroom or around the fact that you are in school that is triggering you.

Does anyone you go to school with know what you are going through? If so can you make a plan with them about helping you through an attack. Mayb writing on a piece of paper it's happening again. Then having them respond back and forth with you till it subsided?

I would want to be by the door. That way I see that escape route as a clear option.

If you face the fear and take power over it, you will soon see you can get through it.

You are saying therapy will be too deep. Does the nature of your anxiety stem from something that goes back? Therapy is very very hard. But it is helpful.

Also, age might be playing a factor here. There are some studies done that women in your age group can develop anxiety and depression due to hormonal changes.

What's worked for me is therapy and I'm on medication. Breathing techniques really work.

I hope you find something that works. Panic is an awful feeling.

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Sadlady21 in reply to Dolphin14

Yes it's something that happened to my son, it's very hard for me to deal with. One class mate knows but I often find that after a while people just start to roll their eyes because they don't really understand or are not really that interested. I've done the breathing exercises before and they did help but after the bad one the other day I haven't had chance, the one that scared me the most was that it came out of nowhere and that hasn't happened before, I usually know when it's going to happen so it scared me even more

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Dolphin14 in reply to Sadlady21

I'm sorry for whatever happened to your son. It must have been very serious if this is the cause of your panic.

Not sure how big your lecture room is. Can you sneak in a phone and text someone when it happens?

Take a bathroom break and go back in?

Calm music or meditation in the car before you go in may help. Index cards with a little " pep talk" or quote on it to focus on?

This is just my opinion based on my own history. Unloading the burden in therapy was what helped me the most. The sessions were upsetting and draining but the end result made it all worth it.

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Sadlady21 in reply to Dolphin14

It was very serious, I can't talk about it still as its so very painful. I am allowed my phone in so texting someone isn't a problem, I like the idea of the index cards they sound really good and the pep talk will hopefully help, when I left on Tuesday I think I sat in my car for to long instead of just getting out and going, it gave me chance to talk myself out of going to lecture and that's exactly what I did

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Dolphin14 in reply to Sadlady21

Good idea to just get out and go in. You have to push yourself. Even if you get through part of the lecture that's a goal.

Again, I'm sorry about your son. 😢

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Sadlady21 in reply to Dolphin14

Thank u for the kind words about my son, they have just made me 😢

I have a 2hr lecture tomorrow so if I aim for an hour and make it thru 2 then thats a great bonus, I can't afford to lose any more attendance but as long as I get my mark then the rest doesn't matter I don't suppose

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Dolphin14 in reply to Sadlady21

I didn't mean to make you cry. But as a mother I can certainly relate to what we feel when they go through something.

Do the best you can. Be gentle with yourself. Panic is very draining. ❤️

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Sadlady21 in reply to Dolphin14

Thank u, its one of the worst things tbh. It is so very draining your right, I'm just going to have to take each day as it comes by the look of it. Thank u for your replys its so nice to know there are people who will take the time to listen

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Sadlady21

Hi

Thank you for the warm welcome, I've been under a lot of stress lately with personal issues I think this is what has caused the bad one I had the other day, when u daydream does it help, have u ever had to leave a lecture or do u now manage to stay till the end

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Sadlady21

Hi

Yes I missed a lecture on Tuesday because I knew what would happen if I went In so instead I drove all the way there and then drove all the way home, I let myself down badly and had to lie to my friends about why I didn't go. My husband has mentioned therapy but the issues are way to painful to talk about yet abd tbh probably always will be. Thank u for the support it feels good to know there are so many other people out there who have or are going through the same thing

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It might be an idea but it takes so long to get to see anyone, I don't want to take pills as I know they can make u feel like a zombie, plus I would have to come off them at some point and then I will be back to square one again

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