This is tiring

[BossMom2019]

Why does my brain keep telling me something is wrong with me or something is going to happen to me??? It’s making me so scared ☹️

[senorab12]

That’s your anxiety kicking in, I always feel like this but towards my family or someone I know. It’s scary and annoying since I’m always worried something it’s going to happen. It kinda helps to be distracted by going out or watching some movies. I’d wish I could tell you how to fix it but I would love to know too

[BossMom2019 in reply to senorab12]

Mine happens towards loved ones as well

[quitter333]

Because in even deeper subconscious you feel weak?

[BossMom2019 in reply to quitter333]

can you elaborate?

[quitter333 in reply to BossMom2019]

you feel unsafe, like a rabbit in a meadow, you need to look around as anything and anyone will hunt you.

and you also dont trust your legs.

grow stronger and see if your subconscious brain feels more secure and in return severely reduces hormones that cause anxiety

[BossMom2019 in reply to quitter333]

Yesss!!

[quitter333 in reply to BossMom2019]

a bird sitting on a feeble branch does not put its trust into the strength of the branch, but the strength of its wings

[sweetiepye]

I will give you my experience as an example...My father died in an automobile accident when I was five. My Mother , a very fearful person, was lost without him. We moved around many times as she searched for stability . She also went through several marriages . The lesson I learned was I had no control over my life and the bad things that can happen . Growing up I was always looking for ways to control my life. My Mother was also abusive which factors in to my feelings of powerlessness When you think you have no control you become afraid of everything. The solution for me was therapy and building up my self-esteem.

[BossMom2019 in reply to sweetiepye]

I have low self esteem and I fear I’m not in control as well... back in 2016 I was in a toxic relationship for a few months (felt like years) and ended up miscarrying my first child

[sweetiepye in reply to BossMom2019]

I am so sorry for your loss. The thing about having low self esteem and feeling helpless is that it is fixable. Finding some good books on the subject and educating yourself on recovery will give you some direction. Therapy is another option and also setting some goals and accomplishing them one at a time improves your self worth. It takes time and effort but it's well worth it. Pam

[BossMom2019 in reply to sweetiepye]

Thank you so much!!

[Caseopia]

I can relate to your fears. A big issue I have is living in fear of catastrophic events and me or someone I know getting severely injured or die. I don’t know why but now I’m possibly understanding myself after what sweetiepye shared with you and will discuss it with my therapist. I also agree therapy may help regarding how your feeling. I’ve endured a lot of loss since I was young up until present. I’ve also gone through abandonment, abusive relationships, and many more situations that may add to my fear and anxiety. But I totally understand how your feeling regarding your post and that you’re scared. I get scared by my feelings also. If you want to chat, I’m here.

[BossMom2019 in reply to Caseopia]

I wish I didn't have anxiety so bad, I be wanting to take trips but I'm so afraid to travel now, shit stupid... Then women getting snatched up, I don't have a gun and I have a baby... then a lot of people my age are dying or getting killed... Then it's like the years go by so fast, before you know it we gone be in our 80s in the blink of an eye...

[Caseopia in reply to BossMom2019]

I can totally relate. I started getting agoraphobic and wouldn’t leave my house due to similar fears but I still force myself to go somewhere as simple as a grocery store even tho I’ll be getting anxiety attacks while in the store. I still force myself to get out. I have tried to differentiate my irrational verse rational fears and a lot I’m told are irrational but I still get the same emotions and anxiety even if i can admit they are irrational. But I try to learn from them and I need to accept them so I don’t put myself down feeling bad for being this way. I have anxiety all the time. I still remember my first panic attack in kindergarten. But I try to keep myself busy doing arts and crafts as this eases my mind by keeping me distracted. Do you have any hobbies?

[BossMom2019 in reply to Caseopia]

Not currently, I want to try painting

[Caseopia in reply to BossMom2019]

Painting is fun. I’m At a beginner level but I find it fun. There is so many crafts you can too that are low budget. Believe it or not, I make projects using slices of toilet paper rolls. Even listening to music reduces my anxiety and stress. There are many learning tools we can use throughout our day. Even if something only keeps my mind calm and occupied for 2 minutes, I’ll try it.

[waterman1]

I have just found this site yesterday, it is helping me a lot. I keep having fears that my wife is cheating, and my marriage is breaking up. I have no proof, and it seems to help if I go through the evidence to calm my anxiety. What medical diagnoses or life situations do you have that might make you feel that you are sick, or that something is going to happen to you?

[Caseopia in reply to waterman1]

Glad to hear this site is helping you. I am pretty new to it and I’m finding it helpful as well.

[waterman1 in reply to Caseopia]

If it's ok can I ask you a few questions? I am going to my first therapy appointment this morning. In your experiences what has been the most effective as far as therapy, medication etc. My anxiety came on suddenly, at the age of 38, and it is strangling every aspect of my life.

[Caseopia in reply to waterman1]

You can ask me anything you would like. I’m not a doctor but I can say what has worked for me. And what works for me may be different for you. It’s been a long journey. I’ve gone to therapy since I was 7 years old due to life situations growing up but I finally have a psychiatrist that is great and a good therapist. Regarding medication, it wasn’t successful for me with the first medication a doctor tried with me. It took several tries for one that helped my depression but anxiety medication worked for me for my anxiety and panic attacks. They are different types of medication. Your doctor will suggest one that may work for you but one thing I learned going to my therapist and psychiatrist is that I have to be honest with how “good” or “bad” I’m feeling and be honest about the medications such as if it is helping, any side effects, etc. there can be side effects to some medication so just Be mindful of any changes and tell your doctor if you have any. Regarding therapy, I go to talk therapy. I tell my counselor exactly what’s going on and how I’m feeling. This is hard for me sometimes because I don’t like to talk about my feelings. May I ask if something triggered your anxiety at 38? If you don’t know that is ok. My counselor provides learning tools on how to cope with anxiety, what to do when I’m having anxiety, etc. my part is to take her suggestions and utilize them. I can’t not do any work on my end if I want therapy to help. I have to listen, be open minded and honest. Hope that helps. Good luck with your first appointment. That’s a great step to take. If you have any other questions just let me know.

[waterman1 in reply to Caseopia]

Thanks for your sharing your experiences. You should feel good about yourself and the fact you can help others such as myself. It is a big deal. My anxiety was triggered by some emails, and texts sent between my wife, and a male manager. They made me realize how easy it could be for a spouse to cheat, and how fragile a marriage can be even though both partners can say, and look happy. It has made me question every aspect of my life as far as what is real, and what is not. It has shaken me to my core. Using your advice, I think honesty about your feeling with your doctors, family members, and yourself are very important. Thanks a lot.

[Caseopia in reply to waterman1]

You are very welcome. Good luck to you on your new journey. And give yourself credit also for reaching out.

[Phobia64]

My brain is doing the same. It’s exhausting!