Connections

[LucyKe]

I’m so lonely, I relocated with my husband but I found he had been cheating and had a baby a year after we moved, now I’m sitting here so lonely, wishing i had just stayed where i was, I don’t know what to do. Have anybody here made any connections, like do y’all text each other?

[Mary-intussuception]

So sorry Lucy.

What a terrible shock - and with a friend of yours too.

Do you think that's why he wanted to move? Do you think he was hoping for forgiveness and a fresh start somewhere new with you?

Is the affair over, in the past?

I guess you're taking one day at a time just now, understand how alone you must be feeling.

Are you considering moving back ? How would that work out? Would it work? All you can do I think (for now) is to take things slowly and prayerfully. Concentrate on your own health and rising from this & getting as well as you can.

People on here connect privately by sending each other private messages.

I'm in the UK.

God Bless you with the strength to walk through this with His guidance, in Jesus Name, Amen.

♡

xXx

Mary

[hypercat54 in reply to Mary-intussuception]

Good reply Mary, but I would think twice before assuming the poster is a) a believer in any faith and b) a believer in your particular religion. Many on here are triggered by religion and I am sure you don't wish to upset her. x

[Mary-intussuception in reply to hypercat54]

Have you read Lucy's other posts?

I did - and replied in keeping with a previous post of hers.

You appear to have jumped to conclusions, not checked before judging me (wrongly too! ).

I didn't assume anything . . .

Didn't reply inappropriately.

How about you . . . . . ?

[LucyKe in reply to Mary-intussuception]

I honestly feel like why am I here, of all things to do to a person. We left because our kids are grown, his brother passed & I thought I was creating a situation between myself & my husband where we had only each other for a change. This was hidden from me for a whole year, his mother, brother, daughter & friend knew, wasn’t even an affair it was a one night stand with her clearly no protection. Even though that’s where all my family is I would never move back. And honestly torn between walking away and marriage counseling. It’s no excuse for cheating, we all old enough to know right from wrong & if he felt like it was anything wrong in our marriage, he was suppose to come to me. Im so scared I’m gonna fall back into a deeper depression, I’m trying to stay active in hopes of preventing that. also praying God shows me the way to go, Thank you

[Hidden]

Are you still with your Husband, did you move away from the area of the Affair ?.

Just if you return to the town do you have family and friends there waiting for you or would it be just to start again. Would you consider moving into a new area for that new fulfilling start you seem to be looking for.

There would seem to be plenty of people on site that PM each other however do you feel the need for people around you who can give confidence and understanding of your needs.

Never throw the baby out with the dish water, consider your needs and expectations before making a choice to move into an are you are not known

BOB

[LucyKe in reply to Hidden]

Kinda separated, where I’m at it’s extremely hard to get a divorce. I’m not returning there, but definitely looking to relocate again the end of this year, I’m desperately searching for a peace of mind & I MSU just need to be alone for a while & im scared. Just really wanted to have people to talk to keep my mind of this situation the more I think about it I feel myself going backwards, and I don’t know anybody here so...Thanks

[Hidden in reply to LucyKe]

LUCY

I do not know where you are in the world so it is difficult to know what to suggest, I feel however you must live in the Middle/Far East. If this is the case your problems will be complex with your Husband and family members. Given that being alone can be a real problem.

Do you need support you will get from this site, it is important you consider your needs and look for positive outlooks in the new area you wish to live in. Are there any centres that can support you within the new area that deals with Marriage Breakdown ?

BOB