Unhealthy Coping

[Speakeasie]

I was curious as to what coping methods are healthy and which are not. Obviously, addictions are not, I know that. I feel that my own coping methods are not terribly healthy despite not being addiction.

For example, I use the idea of euthanasia as a comfort. I also use my Anti-natalism to convince myself that I'm an alright person because I have decided to never have a child and subject them to the facts of life and the risk of feeling the way I do.

I was curious about coping methods that are healthier and have worked for others. For example, I have one healthy self-care method that makes me feel better, and that's taking a drive alone through a natural setting with oldies on the radio.

[kenster1]

hi obviously negative coping mechanisms are alcohol and drugs going for a drive is great along with other things like fitness even being creative euthanasia will bring you a calmness and I don't see anything wrong with that in any way.

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How about respecting yourself, and ask what the main reasons are for what you wrote above.

Mindfulness may help you with your illness, this Relaxation Tecnique, you can purchase a book on Amazon for about $9.00. That may help

Work out each problem into one block, then try and split each problem into small slices and work on each slice until that problem is sorted, if you get stuck move onto the next problem and a further slice keep moving on or going back to slices not sorted then move on once more, you will find dealing with your problem in this way will help you gain confidence and move on hopefully getting well in the near future.

BOB

[hypercat54]

I agree with Ken, they are not necessarily unhealthy and it's whatever floats your boat. I get completely and totally hacked off with the obsession with Christmas, and the idealised version of happy families etc. So I am staying away from a couple of my sites where there are millions of posts all with a version of happy Christmas. I feel less anxious and less alone doing that. x

[NeuronerdDoaty]

Many people use euthanasia as a coping skill. I believe it’s just escapism for realists. We aren’t going to do anything but we like to keep our options open. It’s an escape the same as a drink or a ride or a book. In my studies I find mostly people who’ve had physical trauma are more apt to take escapism in this direction and head injury patients have long been known to escape with thoughts like this.

Many people choose no kids. That’s always your personal choice for whatever reason.

I find healthy clean food, sleep/rest, meditation/prayer, gentle exercise, and hobbies for brain health proactively are my best coping skills.

I think you’ve already taken positive steps.

[Want2BHappy3]

I like your idea about a long drive n music. Not everything works for everyone? I try to distract myself by swimming or going to a movie. Believe me I’m tempted to drink even though I’m not a drinker just to numb the pain. I hope this helps? 🌲

[BlueSky125]

At some level all coping methods are unhealthy in the sense that they allow you to not to experience your thoughts and emotions. Coping methods are needed sometimes and the healthier the better but you also have to address underlying issues and root causes.

[Onthego33]

I think your question is intriguing. Perhaps you have a sense that there is much more to your coping strategies than you wish to explore at the moment. Both euthanasia and and not having children seem to be about having an absolutely control over life and there may be many reasons why this is crucial for you. It does sound as though this is balanced with other relaxed, self nurturing coping strategies and I think it is striving for balance that is most important.