I was listening to Tara Brach talking about how hating ourselves is an addiction we can break
Unwanted behavior of anger of fear feelings of powerlessness didn’t start with you and are connected to trauma that we can let go of
Self hate should be self compassion
We are responsible when we stop blaming ourselves and become able to respond to the wound.
Absolutely xxxx
Hey there Florida!!! How r u?
Just moved to my own place yesterday, head mashed, but on the whole pretty good , how’s you xx, I just don’t like Christmas !,,
So you moved by yourself? Who all were you living with before?
I like Christmas. What I don’t like is sending my kiddos back to school afterwards and trying to think of ways to make the new year a better one because I always suck at it.
Yes I was living with my brother, but couldn’t get apartment fir 6 months as had no credit history, it’s a small place, but it’s mine!,, xxx
Congratulations 🎊🎈🎉🍾
Love the beautiful photo. Great message also
Thanks Kkimm the photo I took at the beach last summer
I don't really understand the concept of hating yourself.
You hate your body? (exercises, stylist, plastic operations), Or your behavior? (literally just discipline), Or what?
There's very few things completely out of your direct control (like genetic predisposition to age quicker or being a siamese twin), and things out of your control should not bother you, as .. they are out of your control.
Good point I think we can work on it by the way we talk to ourselves and I believe sometimes it’s due to none of these things, but a sense of not good enough, maybe from the way one has been treated and needs to heal from since the abuse was internalized That’s just my take on it.
Self-hate literally does not accomplish anything as it has no real object.
Like, you can't hate your thoughts, as the thoughts are literally you. You can have a feeling of general hate or some looped around misconception about it, but you cannot hate yourself in a meaningful way. It is absolutely counterproductive.
I actually just decided that self-hate is absolutely misinterpreted other feeling or concept.
I agree it doesn’t accomplish anything but cause anguish. Hmmmm it could be misinterpreted as another feeling or concept, maybe so.
not as. it IS another feeling people misinterpret. self hate has no mental or biological basis to exist.
Everyone has an endless stream of thoughts going on while awake. These thoughts are not you. Learn to observe them and only regard the ones that have to do with the present and you will see relief as the self hatred resides in the past and to some degree in fear of the future. This is real and you get better with it with practice.
those thoughts are very much us.
there's simply a filter that we use to concentrate on thoughts we think are important.
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Beautiful photo
Thanks for that Star, was that on you tube? Or Podcast? 🌲
I think both 😊 or you can go to her website Tarabeach.com
You seem so much happier today, Starr 
I hope so!
TGIF
In the mornings I tend to seem better I think. You are so sweet. Thanks for caring Newbie. You are beautiful.
You are not your thoughts! 🤍
A tranquil mind. Worry-free work. Always enough money. The blessing of good health. How many of these things do you not have?
It’s my fault 
