Rock bottom

[Elocin303]

I hit rock bottom today. My husband had to leave work to come get me out of bed, feed me, and put me in the shower. Talk about feelings of guilt flowing. I hate this disease with every ounce of my body and I want better for my kids, my husband and myself. I’ve been on my raised dose of Effexor for one week now. When will it help——

[Dolphin14]

😢 I'm so sorry your day has been that bad.

We have to wait patiently on these meds.

Be kind to yourself right now. Just do the best you can until you get relief.

[Elocin303 in reply to Dolphin14]

Thank you, Dolphin 💛

[Dolphin14 in reply to Elocin303]

💕

[Kaytee1981]

Your so lucky to have such a supportive and understanding husband, he clearly cares and loves you very much.

[Coloradowalker]

Hang in there. Sounds like your husband loves you dearly as does mine. Remind yourself that you would do this for him. Marriages are all about being strong when the other can’t be❤️ There will come a time when you are his rock.

[Sunandrose87]

Give the meds time. Also remember that this is winter time and less sunlight and it can effect depression

[Elocin303 in reply to Sunandrose87]

How long does a med increase usually take?

[TheHound in reply to Elocin303]

Four weeks.

[Elocin303 in reply to TheHound]

😭😭😭😭😭

[TheHound in reply to Elocin303]

You may start to see some changes sooner. You may also need to try a couple of meds before you find the right one and dose. Don’t lose hope. I have had two pulmonary embolisms that almost took my life. I am 36 and in a couple of days it will be one year since my last. I have been going through some dark times, panic attacks, anxiety, my husband having to pick me up too. I started therapy to deal with my anxiety and panic and finally found the right meds. Hang in there. It can seem so hopeless sometimes but there is hope. Always message here for support!

[Elocin303 in reply to TheHound]

I was hoping since I was increasing the med dose that I was on that it maybe help fast already being in my system. Thank you for the advice. I wish for your health as well.

[LilyAnnepuppy]

I know your pain and struggle. Everyone is different. Mine took a few weeks but I could tell they were going to work a little sooner. Hang in there. You'll get better. Call your doctor if it would make you feel better. My benchmark for a successful day was breathing. That much I could barely handle. But I've been out of the black hole for about 6 months now. So there's hope.

[NeuronerdDoaty]

Just because it’s invisible does not mean it’s not a disease. I wish you would not feel bad about it because there are days when someone has had to save me due to lupus or epilepsy. I don’t feel like this is any different. I’m glad you have someone to help you and that you have people who love you. You’re fantastic for sharing.

[Elocin303 in reply to NeuronerdDoaty]

You’re kind. Thank you for listening and responding.

[TheHound]

It sounds like your husband has more compassion for you than you have for yourself. Be kind. This disease is terribly difficult to live with. It is no different than having a physically visible one. It’s difficult not to feel guilt, I’m right there with you. The hardest thing is to be kind to yourself. Please remember to show yourself compassion.

[Elocin303]

Please pray I am so scared

[Genevie]

I’m sorry you feel like that.

I’m glad you have a lot of support from your family. I don’t know if you already try to meditate, it helps me a lot . Think about your family and be brave for them.

[Jeff1943]

What caused your anxiety disorder in the first place, what stress and worry brought it about? Have you resolved the cause?

[Elocin303 in reply to Jeff1943]

I always have the fear of the fear. The fear of getting sick and hitting rock bottom again - because I hate it so much and how it makes me feel. But lately my husband and I have been having some issues and are in counseling. An argument caused my recent fall.

[Jeff1943 in reply to Elocin303]

Those fears are over reactions caused by sensitised nerves exaggerating your worst fears and the inclination to believe the worst case scenario. I hope your husband and you work out your issues and you enjoy many anxiety-free Christmases together.

[Jeff1943 in reply to Elocin303]

Ask him to read chapter 25 in Claire's book titled 'Advice to the family'.