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5 years ago•2 Replies

I moved with my son to my aunts house on oct 1st and. Y husband went to his moms bc our lease ended and we decided on this. Our son needs special needs program and he goes to a great school. I recently moved into my own home and finally decided it’s time to stop with my marriage. 13 years together and 6 years spent with verbal and emotional abuse. I am on day 3 of not answering him and not talking. But I am struggling I miss him bc I am so dependent on him. I hate that I can’t enjoy life without worrying and without telling him what I am doing at all times. I hate myself right now so much I just cry cry cry. What did I do to deserve this? I wish I didn’t have to think of him anymore. I wish I could realize I don’t need him

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Chanshan5 years ago

Give some time and it heals. There is no point going to abuse again. You need to be strong and move on .

YouareBeloved995 years ago

I'm sorry you've had to endure abuse. I can tell you from experience that this initial part of being separated is really hard and it's normal to miss the life you used to have and just having that companionship. It's easy to push aside the bad memories and focus on the good memories that you miss. However, I think that if you are being abused, that it's probably wise to be apart while you sort things out for you and your son. It doesn't necessarily mean all hope is lost. I do believe that even these types of marriages can be saved, but it's not done overnight and putting yourself in harm's way is not advisable. A second (or third or fourth...) is not a repeat of the first chance. Something has to be different. If nothing is different, then the result will be the same.

You said that he was abusive for 6 of the 13 years you were together? Did something happen to him that he was once not an abusive person and then he was? Have you sought out any type of individual counseling for yourself? I have a special needs son as well and counseling has been very helpful in my life. Not just for marriage related stuff but for my general well being. You have a lot on your plate.