For survivors like me...💜

[Sunshine425]

the shame is not ours... it is theirs..

[Tealribbon]

Blaming the victim..soooo wrong

[Hidden]

Thank you so much from a fellow survivor. Often even family members blame the victim, especially when family members are the perpetrators. So sad.

[JEG325 in reply to Hidden]

I'm so sorry for both you and S425....Is there anything I can do?

[Sunshine425 in reply to Hidden]

Exactly. I was told to clear the air before christmas. I was only 19 years old at the time. 💔

[Hidden in reply to Sunshine425]

I'm sorry. My mom packed my bags when I told her and she said, maybe he thought you liked it. It started at three years old.

[Sunshine425 in reply to Hidden]

My aunt just backed out of coming to my wedding because I gave her heads up "he" wasnt invited. I was also molested as a 4 year old and NEVER got justice. And NEVER felt safe or like anyone was to be trusted.

Im so tired of being a victim to this abuse that lives on

[Hidden in reply to Sunshine425]

I wasn't going to go to my dad's funeral until he backed out. Might have to miss my mom's for him. I certainly won't take my daughter or my husband because he will hurt him.

So sorry for you.

[Sunshine425 in reply to Hidden]

Assuming this is a stepdad or uncle?

[Hidden in reply to Sunshine425]

Full brother.

[Sunshine425 in reply to Hidden]

Omg........

Just sent you pm.

💛

[san_ray70 in reply to Hidden]

I packed my bags and left because my kids wanted me to leave, If I knew then what I know now I would never have gone. My daughter told me a few months later, It all blew up, we went to court, he got away with it. My daughter had left it too late, I lost my family through no fault of mine. My daughter has a daughter of her own now, I do not see or hear from them. I long for the day she will contact me.

[Sunshine425 in reply to san_ray70]

💔💔💔

It is not your fault.

And she may come around. Life is unpredictable. Keep that in your soul. This was NOT your fault. You didnt know. Ofcourse you would have protected your babies.

People are cruel. And sometimes we shut the world out, including our own loved ones.... just so we can heal. My guess is you are on her mind. Especially now that she is a mother now too.

[Hidden in reply to san_ray70]

I'm so sorry. That is so sad.

[Kkimm]

Good point made