How to live with somebody that doesn’t love you ?

[27Purple27]

I know he does not love me because he has said it to me before, he shows it everyday and he makes me feel I’m not a real part of his life. He does not care about my depression and when I ask for help he does not care turns his back to sleep or simply gets upset.

[Broken_Alive18]

I think the best way is, not to. If it's possible to leave, do it. If it's possible for him to leave, tell him to. Depression is a big enough monster to deal with, don't take feeling unwanted on top of it. I don't know the whole situation, but I think you're worth being loved.

[27Purple27 in reply to Broken_Alive18]

I just do not think that after all it has to be me. He is the one that does not love me .... I do love him. I really just pray so he can get his life together and move one with his life because he does know that he doesn’t want to be here. Honestly I don’t know why he hasn’t leave yet. But you are right living with the feeling of been unwanted it’s super painful.

[Broken_Alive18 in reply to 27Purple27]

I'm the queen of unrequited love so I definitely understand. It is so hard to let go of someone when you love them. Even if it's toxic to you. And I'd be a hypocrite if I told you that you need to buck up and just walk away because that's something I can't do myself. But I will tell you what I would want someone to say to me. You are wonderful and beautiful and you're worth it! If someone can't see that, it's their problem. Use that energy you waste loving them and fall in love with yourself!

[27Purple27 in reply to Broken_Alive18]

How and what will you do to start? I really want to take control of my life, myself and be more independent. Any tips or ideas. Thank you for writing back I really needed the support today

[Broken_Alive18 in reply to 27Purple27]

Shift your focus to you. Sometimes when you're feeling broken, the only way to fix yourself is to be selfish. And it's the little things that make a day better. At least I think so. Listen to your favorite album and sing loud if you want to. Dance if you want to. If you like reading, start a new book and escape for a few hours. If you like scented candles, light a few and just sit and decompress. If you like bubble baths, take one. Get dolled up and go for a walk or to the store for groceries. Anything that will make you smile, even if it's for a few minutes. And if the smile fades do something else and smile again. Stand up for yourself. Be your own advocate. Protect your emotions. Build yourself up. Tell yourself everyday that you're worth it. Tell yourself you're beautiful. Loving yourself is a process. So take your time and find your way there.

[hypercat54]

I agree. If he doesn't love you then find someone who does. You deserve better than this x

[BrainFog-Ninja]

27Purple27,

I pray for you the wisdom, strength, and peace to deal with your difficult situation. 🙏 🙏 🙏

Your post spoke to me. Someone close to me had the same problem. It broke my ❤️. And still does. I tried (for decades) to help her become independent enough to chose herself, over him. It ended-up that she just couldn’t do it bc of her own deep beliefs. It is such an individual decision. Please don’t waste your life staying where you are not loved, and cherished...you deserve so much more. Even taking small steps to become independent will prepare you for the time you really believe it, and are ready to go find who you were meant to be with... 🌞 🍄 🌸

[stbernard1]

I am sorry about your situation. Have you considered counseling? A support group? Communication and trust in relationships are essential. Please get the support you need. Praying for you