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The beginning of the end of anxiety?

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You feel bewildered and confused. Some awful malaise has descended on you and you don't know why.

What is happening to you is perfectly normal. It is the normal reaction of your nervous system to a long period of worry, overwork, stress, disappointment, grief without closure, money worries and/or trauma. Only you know which of these apply to you.

Eventually your nervous system decided enough was enough. It became over sensitised, a perfectly normal response and one that has been experienced by many hundreds here.

Over sensitised nerves then start to malfunction. Everything seems ten times more serious than it really is. Small problems easily overcome become impossible tasks. Aching muscles become symptoms of heart failure or terminal cancer.

It is normal not to want to die early. But health anxiety exaggerates this into a feeling of imminent death. Our blurry vision is surely the harbinger of impending blindness?

All of these negative reactions release more fear hormones which continue to maintain the over sensitisation of our nerves. So symptoms cause fear which causes more symptoms which cause more fear. You have entered a vicious circle which perpetuates your condition.

Your actions follow a pattern most familiar to us. You see your doctor, you see specialists, you have every test in the book. But nothing is found. Of course it isn't - anxiety doesn't show up in a scan or an x-ray. All these dreadful symptoms aren't for real: your nerves are on the blink and are sending out fake symptoms that imitate Irritable Bowel Syndrome, angina, brain tumours, vertigo and every other illness in the book.

Despite the tests and the specialists finding nothing you become convinced they've got it wrong. They've missed something. Suddenly you have acquired the ability to diagnose illness far better that doctors who went to medical school for 5 years.

This, then, is the perfectly normal way your mind and body react to unbearable stress. If you want to recover you must be prepared to practice self-help procedures and be persistant. But first you must neutralise the thing that has been causing the nervous distress. You must put yourself first and be prepared to be ruthless in removing that cause.

You've been fighting these bad feelings for months and it's done you no good. Fighting causes stress and tension, the very things that are keeping your nerves over sensitised.

So stop fighting the symptoms and do the opposite. Surrender completely to your health anxiety. Utterly accept the symptoms for the time being. Agree to coexist with them.

Recovery lies in doing nothing. Let the fake symptoms and strange thoughts come. Accept them calmly and without fear. After all they are simply blips in your nervous system. Why frighten yourself half to death because of a blip?

So let them come and accept them. Fake symptoms and false feelings can't kill you, disable you or send you insane. So start accepting them without fear and you know what.

Because you're no longer flooding your nervous system with fear hormones your nerves start to recover. Let time pass and all the awful feelings and afflictions will go too. You will regain your peace of mind and take back your life.

This then is the cause of health anxiety. And the way that tens of millions have recovered. And there's no reason you shouldn't be next so long as you are willing to take control of your recovery and are prepared to practice Acceptance with persistance.

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SpiritualT

Love this Jeff

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bergh

Thank you so much for this valuable common sense I need right now x

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Funkyfaerie

Thank you

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Roses246

Love it!!! Just what I needed in this stressful time. I'm going to employ this.

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Tinkynutbug

Yes perfectly said Jeff!!!

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Preciouslamb1

Well said thank you

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Icanbeathis2016

Thanks again for dropping in and enlightening me..

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Barkiea10

Thank you, Jeff. Your posts are so well written & helpful. I have been suffering from health anxiety for a long time. I am 45 years old & had my first panic attack in January. Over the next 5 months, I went downhill quickly- eventually having a full breakdown in June that resulted in 7 trips to the ER & leaving my job for 12 weeks. I was bed ridden & agoraphobic. I thought I was dying. I only left my house to see countless specialists & underwent numerous tests. I didn’t think it was possible that health anxiety could literally make you physically ill to the point you think you are dying & can no longer function as your former self. Your posts have given me hope to keep working on my recovery. Trying to be patient with myself knowing the symptoms won’t go away over night.

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Jeff1943

Barkiea, I am sorry to hear of your recent distress. To ask the obvious: have you worked out what caused you so much stress that it caused you to have a breakdown? Have you been able to neutralise it?

I am always referring to Acceptance as a method for recovery from anxiety disorder in all its forms including health anxiety. This method was first set out many years ago by Doctor Claire Weekes who worked out the method and used it to recover from her own anxiety disorder. Her recently published biography claims that Acceptance has helped tens of millions to recover worldwide.

The U.S. title of her first book published over 50 years ago is 'Hope and help for your nerves' still in print and available new or used from Amazon and Ebay. Doctor Weekes herself died at an advanced age some 25 years ago.

Everything I wrote in my post is based on the teachings of Claire Weekes. I commend her book to you as I believe it will bring understanding, reassurance and a road to recovery for you no matter how long or deeply you have suffered. I hope this book brings forth respite and recover for you if you should decide ti read it.

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Barkiea10 in reply to Jeff1943

I have the book & will be reading it. I do know what caused my health anxiety - years of different traumas. I am now in therapy & working on recovery. My nerves/brain are so sensitized, it will take a while for my body to stop having physical symptoms. I know it varies among sufferers, I just hope the physical symptoms stop soon. I would love my life back.

This is a very insightful and well-written post but I don't understand how I can possibly do this when my symptoms are debilitating. :(

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That's the great thing about the acceptance method, you don't have to do anything, you just have to stop fighting and accept the fake symptoms for the time being knowing they are no danger to you and therefore not worth fearing. Through understanding and reassurance and agreeing to co-exist with your symptoms for the moment you overcome fear and your nervous system is left in peace to desensitise and repair itself just as other parts of the body repair themselves in time. But Acceptance is no instant cure, recovery is gradual and measured in weeks not hours.

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Sprinkle1

Thank you Jeff, I have the book, bought it in 1988 when I was in bad shape, and am re reading it now. I think of acceptance, a wonderful therapist taught me years ago, "In acceptance there is peace", that was a valuable lesson and I have used it a lot, I am seeing a therapist and she tells me I am exhausted from all the trauma in my life, my brain is not functioning properly. I am on antidepressants and anti anxiety pills, the latter I use as needed, did not take any today. I am 77 and had a hectic life, so I am prone to depression/anxiety, two monsters that are not easy to live with, but it will end and I will get myself back. So to anyone that reads this, yes there is hope, and yes acceptance does work. Once again thank you Jeff, I hope this will encourage anyone that read it. Sprinkle 1.....

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