I know I’ll be Ok

[DepressedMom2]

If you guys read my previous post, the dad of my children failed to respect my wishes towards this girl I once called friend. Well I ended things with him Friday night. Yesterday night he came home after I had been out with the kids for a couple hours and he says he was making plans. Before this, he jumped in the shower and I saw his phone where before getting home he called this girls husband so they can hang out and when they hang out and drink this girl gets rowdy and to friendly even in front of her husband. Anyways, so I got my kids and left for a while. I had told him he didn’t have to move out as he is only here every 2 wks for a week, and so our daughter that is only 5 don’t have to take in this big change so quickly. Well I left for a bit to my sisters and he decided to get some of his things and leave to a hotel for the rest of his days off. I checked the bank statements last night and he was at a night club. I cried. I cried so much that I woke up with my eyes so swollen this morning. I’m not sure if this guy I once loved so much and thought I knew so well, if he will ever regret doing this to his family. I was the one that cared more and have supported him thru everything these 6 years while his friends and family members including his parents would just come around to bitch at him or take money from him. My stomach hurts just having to till my 5 year old why her dad won’t be living with her anymore. Why does he come from work but only comes to pick her and her brother up for a little bit and I ain’t going with them? Last night I told her he may come for them and she asked why wasn’t I coming and I said I have things to do, it’s daddy and kids day. And she only said I feel sad u ain’t coming. I cried. I took a drive while they both feel asleep and cried some more. Just to tell myself right before I went to sleep that he don’t deserve us. He don’t deserve me and why am I crying over someone who obviously never felt the same as me. And I sure ain’t ready to meet anyone or talk to anyone, I even removed my social media, but I know there has to be someone out there that is the totally opposite of this guy I thought was my forever. I’m just scared cause I never imagined being with someone that ain’t the father of my kids. I’m only 24 but I know i will get thru this. I have 2 small people depending on me and I can’t fail them over some dumbass who obviously doesn’t care enough to spend time with them instead of being out drinking and partying with friends. Maybe his hurt so that’s his way of coping? I still don’t think it’s his only choice out of a hundred ways he can cope with this if it really does hurt him. Plus what about his kids? Where does his kids fit into this? Am I bad for wanting to get out as much money as I can from the bank Incase he tried to cut me off? I don’t know if his capable of using everything in savings for his personal use and leave me to struggle with bills and his kids needs. But I didn’t think he was capable of this either. I expected to much and I was stupid for depending on him. God give me the strength and faith to get on my own 2 feet and do what’s needed to be done for my own little family.

[hypercat54]

Hey you are thinking too far ahead so just concentrate on looking after yourself and the two little ones. Don't forget he is only able to work coz you are at home taking care of his children so you are equally entitled to the money he earns. Think of the worst case scenario and protect yourself and family. You will need money to survive so ensure you have enough to take care of his children until you get back on your feet. He should also have to pay child support

Don't waste time on trying to analyse or understand him either x

[DottieLucy]

DepressedMom2, I am so sorry that you are having to go through this but I can tell that you have tons of strength, lots of faith in God, and you know that your two littles are more important than anything else, and that, as you said, you will get through this and you will be stronger than ever, your faith in God will be stronger than ever and your kids will be good, too.

Do not hesitate to remove money from your joint accounts; you are entitled to spousal support and child support, so don't even worry about it. If it leaves your husband short on cash, that is his issue, NOT yours!!

Continue to rely on the One who truly cares for you and loves you no matter what. With Him on your side, you will get through this. I am praying for you.