Seeking advice

[DepressedMom2]

I’m a mom of 2. I depend on my boyfriend/father of my kids to support me. We are having a lot of problems right now, and 1 of those problems is that he don’t understand my anxiety and depression and then after my baby 6 months ago I got lost partum depression and could never get it taken cared of professionally. I’ve suffered with this since I was really young and now I’m 24 and still haven’t been able to find something to help me cope. Addiction runs in my family so I’m afraid to get hooked on something plus I have no insurance and can’t afford to see a therapist or pay for meds. I’m always in my head. I over think everything and I can be very negative. I’m trying my best to be better. Trying to love myself again. But I need ideas to help keep my mind busy. I was working for a short time and quit due to my baby getting sick and daycare right now ain’t the best option for him. So I’m just at home with my baby, bored out of my mind. I got a pre-schooler and their dad works away from home for 2 weeks at a time. I honestly don’t like to be very social. Im writing sometimes and it helps a bit, but I need something else to keep busy, something I can do while having my baby with me. Any advice for any stay at home parents that deal with Anxiety & Depression?

[BoboMum]

Hello. I just started on here this evening. I'm currently trying to work my way back from some really really bad down time. I understand your situation. I'm so sorry, it seems you don't have a comfortable person to lean on. I never did either. Sometimes it helps me to find something to learn. If you like to bake, making bread by hand is an art. The ingredients aren't too costly and nothing smells better than freshly baked bread. Start simple and see how it goes.

[onthetrail]

I feel for you. Sounds like you are really trying. I agree about learning. This could be a good time in your life to develop a new job skill that might pay off later, maybe with online work. Or study more about anxiety/depression. Or learn a self-help technique like meditation. There are so many resources on the web. YouTube is a good free place to start for learning anything. Udemy has lots of cheap courses. Take care.

[hippieebbbz09]

Maybe you can work from home, distractions are best to calm your anxious/depressed mind. Yoga (yes , cliche) can help in-between the work-at-home shifts, too . Keep up the writing girl! That’s great. Also, try painting ....doesn’t have to be perfect...have fun doing it. Have your little one near you (when he/or she isn’t at pre-school) , and teach them how to paint too. Basically, do calming yet fun hobbies, as well as, work-from-home, learn a skill/trade too. These get your mind productive , not neglecting the anxiety/depression, but lifting the suck-y mood veil and trying to bring you happiness!

As far as your partner goes, I can only hope he educates himself on how this truly can affect women , especially his woman, you. Find a documentary on the realities off Post-partum and make him watch with you —-if you can , when both of you aren’t tired. Maybe that’ll help? Idk. I know it’ll feel better knowing you got his support sooo :/ KEEP THE FAITH, of knowing it’ll get better, I know in the moment , now, you’re going through it...I know, hon.

[DepressedMom2]

Thank you guys❤️ I’m trying to keep it together for my kids. Some days are better than others and baking and painting sound so much fun.