anxiety over grown up children

[infogoddess04]

I worry constantly about my adult children. We stuck together when their dad was abusive and I still feel like I need to protect them from everything. When they have bad days, my anxiety goes crazy.

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Well you just named how to help yourself. You need to let go of the drama you’re attached to the drama but it was in the past. You can help them by listening but also concentrating on good stuff and laughing sharing silly things in day or great movies or books or silly things you did that day or a neighbour or whatever. There’s more to your words than drama. That’s your new mama job to teach this

[Sunshine425]

Sorry to hear your kids are having a bad day. My mom and I both struggle with anxiety and depression due to past traumas. She too, expresses deep anxiety and frustrations that have to do with my brother and I. Im sure you taught your kids everything they need to know about protecting themselves. Life is hard for so many of us but we fight and survive our darkest days. I know as a mother that deep need to see your kids suceed may never go away, but you have to put yourself first. You need to take care of you. You can still be there for your kids. For me, just knowing my mom is listening makes me feel loved and supported. Its a bad day and it WILL get better for you and your kids. Sending positive thoughts to you and your family!

[ricosuave]

I feel the same way about my past parental efforts, but sometimes we just don't do enough at the time and regret it later.

At this point, all you can do is do your best to try to make up for what did or didn't happen.

Can you find a support group or just some new friends to meet with on a regular basis?

Try to keep learning and finding the truth, and don't be too hard on yourself!

Good luck!

[infogoddess04 in reply to ricosuave]

Thank you everyone