Vacation is supposed to be fun

[BrettS119]

I had been struggling all month with anxiety relating to the vacation I'm on now with my family. The main reason being I was afraid we wouldn't get along. I'd be too annoyed with someone else and have a big emotional response to it. It's usually my dad giving me this sarcastic attitude he constantly has, or my stepbrother doing something that makes me embarrassed to be around him. Well tonight, what I was afraid to have happen happened. I got into another fight with my dad, who I've already struggled with maintaining a relationship with him. Now I just feel so stuck here and I immediately regret coming even when I had the chance to say no.

The only reason I did come was because I didn't want to miss out on the beach. The beach is my favorite place in the whole world. I think it's so peaceful and happy. I could fall asleep if I wanted to or I could go swim in the ocean. The sun's always out and it's nice and warm. I wish I lived close to one, it's my dream. If we weren't going to a beach I wouldn't have came. But now I just feel like it's not worth going with my family even if it is to the beach.

[Agora1]

Hi BrettS yes vacations are suppose to be fun. The fact that the beach is your most

favorite place to be is a plus. Don't be sorry that you decided to go along. You are going

to have to disconnect yourself from your father by finding that quiet spot on the beach

where you can take in the peace and calm and tranquility it has to offer you.

What could be better than having an escape from high tension between you and your

dad. Use the time you are there to regenerate and focus on your dream. This is your

vacation too. Enjoy Brett xx

[dbeck128]

Did you take your own vehicle? Maybe you could leave if you feel super uncomfortable. I always do that. 😊

[BrettS119 in reply to dbeck128]

Unfortunately I didn't. I wanted to but we were already taking 2 cars

[Mary-intussuception]

Are you able to get to the beach on your own each day? Make the most of it whilst there?

Avoid being around your Dad & Stepmum, can you eat alone for a couple of days?

If you really want to leave are you in a position to as already suggested?

I hope things will 'blow over', the last row will be forgotten & you can get some quality time on the beach and refresh. Take some happier memories with you.

If you want to try sort things out with your Dad - ask him can you have a quiet chat some time. Just the two of you. Arrange to meet in a public place like a cafe. Then :

Thank him for for the chance of the holiday by the beach (start off on a positive note , complimentary & praise where due) then say - but does he realise how hurtful some of the things he says to you are. Mention the sarcasm & how you feel embarrassed by other comments from your Stepmum. Try not to sound like you are criticising him or stepmum - say it's just that you'd really like to feel more comfortable around them - rather than not see them at all.

Say you want to keep seeing him but maybe it's better if you don't see each other too often as you find it brings you down so much.

You know your Dad - whether or not this is worth trying - only you can decide.

All the best with the remainder of the vacation - hope you do get quality time on the beach and peace to just 'be' when on your own, and when others are around.

God Bless x

&

Lots of Love ♡

[BrettS119 in reply to Mary-intussuception]

This helps a lot. Thank you

[Dolphin14]

I agree with the others. If you love the beach enjoy some solitude and peace by the ocean.

I love the beach also. Just relax as much as you can.

A lot of family vacations end out with some sort of tension. So, you are not alone in this experience. I understand your hesitation to go.

Now that you are there make the best of it for you. Enjoy.

[dbeck128]

How is your vacation going?

[BrettS119 in reply to dbeck128]

Better, I guess. Still not great but better