Losing it

[Korra]

Do people even care about me. I don't know why I'm on this. I don't know you. And you don't know me. How could this ever help. I feel like I am just imaging this and having internal struggles. No one really exists.

[Hidden]

The moment you were born, and even before that, you were connected with everything and everyone on this earth. We can empathize with you from thousands of miles away. Everyone on this site cares about you. We truly care and want to help each other because that's human nature. I promise you exist, I exist, everyone you know exists and we all exist together. Sometimes our brains just glitch out a bit and we feel sad and alone but we never really are. Anything in particular you're upset about?

[Korra in reply to Hidden]

I really don't know. I feel like the "friends" in my life are lying when they say they care about me. I'm the pity case. It doesn't seem to matter if I'm alone or with people I just feel like I'm in the dark. I feel excluded but it's my fault cause I never do anything. And that realization just ends up spiraling endlessly. So i don't know what to do and I feel lost.

[JAYnLA]

Suggestion: tomorrow (or today if you're in the UK), do something to help a stranger in need. Buy a homeless person a sandwich or take out a neighbor's garbage... something anonymous. It will help. You're having a self esteem crash. A great way to turn it around is to be of service to others. Thanks for posting.

[Hidden]

Hey Korra,

You're absolutely right in that I don't know you and you don't know me, but I do know that I have had that exact conversation with myself. Why would this work, why should it work, and how will it work? I'd recommend reading a post I had recently...about a week ago...where I had a horrible experience on vacation. I was defeated and I felt like a failure. I decided to write a post on here about it and what a terrible defeat I had just endured. Every post that was returned to me was others shining the light not on the aspect of failure, but the positive things that I had accomplished. I didn't even realize it. Because I have opened myself up to others, they do know me...and I feel like they are darn near family because all I receive is kindness, love, and support. It gave me a better perspective, confidence, and opened my eyes to things I was blind to seeing. I try my best to return the favor. We are all in this together....and that doesn't change.

I also said this would never help...several years ago. I didn't see a point to seeing and hearing the same things I was dealing with...or worse. I found this to be incorrect as I've embraced and have been embraced by the great folks on here. In the darkest of times, this community can be the light. Everyone here has been where you are...or something like it. I hope to get to know you a little more and maybe pay things forward; whether it's advice or my own experiences that make you feel more okay about your own. Whatever it might be. There is more hear than you realize. It's possible to care even if you don't know someone...just like Jay mentions doing a kind thing for a stranger. I think you'll find that here even if it feels foreign....people caring for people they don't necessarily know in this crazy world.

[Dolphin14]

I agree with the others. I have only been here a short time. We are community of people sharing similar experiences.we come together to help each other and get help from others.

Everyone is in different stages of healing. This is where we can take advise and give personal advice about what we have learned.

[argh52]

On the internet, no one knows you're a dog, but we are all people in pain; we're not alone, we have each other.

[lorianxiety]

hello Korra,im sure there are many more on this forum who feel similar to you in moments of extreme frustration and utter dismay that we cannot feel Real,as reality alludes us when in the grips of depression and anxiety with no one there to actually understand;But we do care about our mutual sufferers.and I certainly open my heart to you ,to help you realise that we all have similar and varying experiences of this awful condition.,and that your never alone anytime you wish to talk/air your feelings.take care.