Look in your closet. What colors appeal to you the most right now, not from the past choices. Today's preferences.
What about the color you prefer for a car if you were buying a car now ?
In your house? Walls, carpets, furniture?
Are they all different in tone and intensity then they were when you brought them into your life? Why do you think you feel more comfortable with your choice of today's colors? Have you changed.
Please be brief because those of us with anxiety issues have problems focusing on too many words.