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Thought of the day ๐Ÿ’ญ working on ourselves

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I listened to a talk about blame.

What I took from the talk was we need to take responsibility for how we feel. Notice our language. No one can make us feel ______. (Sad or angry ) We become so from our own experience, how we are seeing things. We are powerful or we give it away.

What do you think?

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I agree with this 100%...goes with the power of our minds...to a certain extent we have control...it's all at how you look at it....turning a negative into a positive is possible...I'm living proof of that one, hahaha!

How you doing sis? Thank you for this lovely post..what kind of flowers are these? They are killer Cool...I'd like to get me some!

Make it shine today!

Dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy & hugs for you !!!

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Hi ya anxiety! I hope u had a wonderful Mothers Day. I did๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—

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Hi Sunny! Yes I did..happy to hear you had a good one too...got a beautiful hydrangea...can't wait to plant it...it's Killer Cool!

We've had so much rain of late...good for the flowers...and ducks..so I can't beat em..I'm joining em..becoming a duck and I'll just quack, quack around all day!

May you have a beautiful day!

Dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy & hugs!!!

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Omg ๐Ÿ˜ฎ you are funny ya big duck! ๐Ÿ˜† I donโ€™t know my son gave them to me and he called them alien tennis ball flowers. ???

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Quack, quack!!! I just came in from planting some things....I'm going to have to look them up...I love em...just like you sis!

Dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy & hugs for you beautiful!!!!

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Quack, quack! You're so funny! I have a hydrangea in my front yard landscaping. They are so pretty.

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Quack, quack! I don't have good luck with mine...I should put a pic of it up..it's beautiful....fingers crossed she'll do good...I'll make sure to chat with it...

Dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy & hugs!!!

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First of all, I think you are lovely and smart

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I want to say as well that once the pain & hurt is healed theres a responsibility on us to not repeat the hurt and pain to the next generation and to "love" ourselves enough so to lead a better life absent of the self loathing.

I blame my mom for my anxiety..if she was more attentive to emotional needs I would not have had the anxiety that Ive suffered with. Theres nothing wrong w blaming. It's getting stuck in those feelings that can hurt us & our future.

However, the past is the past and she knows she made mistakes. However, Im left with the "damage". What do I do? Sit and wallow or keep fighting? I kept fighting for my emotional health and Im winning.

Im healing & Im the closest to my mom today than I have ever been in my life.

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On point, Little Star......

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((((((((Thanks and a Hug Big Newbie))))))))

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Oh Starrlight, I believe in that wholeheartedly :)

I can be my own worst enemy at times where I have to yell at

myself in talking me down. It's a good feeling to feel the power.

Thanks for sharing. :) xx

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Yes I know what you mean, I was fighting with myself earlier... I won haha ๐Ÿ˜‰

I agree, I do leave room for righteous indignation however. Sometimes things done are so outrageous that you must take exception with it for your own mental health. This can be done, I agree, without getting angry. Thank you for the reminder my friend. God bless you.

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But indignation is getting angry over something unjust. So I think you are right though itโ€™s okay to get angry but we choose it for ourselves noticing how we are letting ourselves feel. Sorry itโ€™s kind of hard to explain. Iโ€™m just getting into this taking the power over my feelings ha itโ€™s hard to word the concept right. I hope Iโ€™ll find more of these talks.

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I think that tells me i have had some very traumatic life experiences. :(

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