Relationship Advice?

[Wowzerzzz]

So I'm a college sophomore and I have anxiety and depression. Normally I wouldn't ask about my relationship on here but I don't want to talk to people that know me. I will try to keep this as brief as possible.

I have a boyfriend (I am female) and we've been dating for a little over a year. We have pretty different personalities; he's a little hood and I'm pretty nerdy. I've been feeling weird about us for the past few months and we've talked about it and have been working it out. We both just feel like we're so different from each other and sometimes that hurts our relationship but other times we think we can make it through. I love him to death, I do, but something happened recently that makes me want to break up.

I am kind of a loner on campus, but lately I've been making a lot of friends. I hang out with this particular group of guys from one of my classes; they're super sweet and funny. When I hang out with them there's just this amazing vibe, we go off of each other's humor, laugh constantly, have great conversations, and we like the same things. If I'm being completely honest I sort of "like" one of them. I know that's bad and that why I am here and considering ending it with my bf.

Anyways, I realize I don't feel that good vibe as much with my own boyfriend. I guess these friends just make me realize that I could date someone who is more similar to me and I connect more with. Am I crazy? Should I dump him? Advice? Comments? Anything?

[Hidden]

I would move on if it seems like there are differences. Often times we don't listen to our gut that says it's not right. Listen to your gut. You are young and have a chance to get it right. Believe me, I have lived it and made the wrong choice twice. Please avoid years of mistakes, divorces. Listen to your gut.

[Wowzerzzz in reply to Hidden]

Thanks so much for the advice. I guess I’m just afraid of letting a potential man go, even if it may be for the best right now...

[rothko]

Hello! I remember being a college sophomore. Everything seems monumental then but from my experience it is not.

Think about why you want to stay with someone. Is it because you’re comfortable and are afraid? Or is it unbreakable love? L

I’m happy to hear you’re making a lot of friends! You should not feel guilty for finding people that you connect to.

You are so so young- there is so much exploring to do! Sometimes your sophomore sweetheart is the one and sometimes they’re not. Discovering people you feel more connected to does not make you crazy. Breakups are hard regardless but you both will get through it if that’s the path you pick (and do it with dignity of course!).

I don’t think anyone can tell you what to do as we don’t have the full details. But happy to chat thru it further if it helps! Sometimes we have a better sense of how we really feel when we write it out and explain it.