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Is it okay to write her a letter? Wwyd?

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I met a girl at my old job where I sort of got to know her for 3 months. She was a coworker of mine but I didn't see her often because she worked at a different building. The few times I spoke to her I realized she was something special. I developed some feelings for her and didn't told her until my last day. I tried to be around her group of friends as much as possible to be in her circle. I always did crazy but good things in order to get her attention, and in the end I did.

When I confessed to her in front of everyone and asked for a date she told me she was in between married and single and going through some kind of hard stuff. I implied it meant no. So today at church I saw her friend and she told me that she said that she would get back at me on that date when things are settled and she is in a better place emotionally. I did told her after all that I would leave that door open for her just in case.

I don't expect anything, but there seems to be a big maybe yes here. I grew close with all of my ex co-workers so sooner or later I'll stop by again in a few weeks. I don't know how long this wait may be and there is nothing guaranteed, but still I'd like to write her a letter just to wish her good luck in whatever she wants to do next. It's a sticky situation, but this girl is worth it. I just know it. I just don't know how much distance to put in between. I don't even have her added on any social media just to avoid the friend zone. But then again I don't want to push her away. There is no point on seeing her right now. Like I said I know this may not work out but still. Any tips or comments.

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Kat63

I think it would be OK to send her a little note. Nothing too heavy, just “thinking of you,” that kind of thing.

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EduardoHors3 in reply to Kat63

Definitely. Just honest good intentions here. There is no point in pressuring anything right now.

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hypercat54

Yes. If you do ask her out again do it in private. I don't see any harm sending her a letter wishing her luck. You could also drop in casually that the date is still on if she wants it. x

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