The worst thing about anxiety for me

[Kat63]

I know that the anxiety is a problem my own mind is inflicting on me, on top of the very real life problems that I have right now.

People tell me to use breathing techniques or meditate to ease the anxiety. I know they are right. I’ve used the techniques before.

But I’m scared because I do have real-life problems that are making my anxiety worse. I’m unemployed. My former employer might contest my claim for unemployment benefits. I’m moving back in with my boyfriend next week, and getting cold feet about it. What if that’s a mistake?

I don’t want to do any “breathing techniques” or meditation. I want good solutions to the real-life problems behind my anxiety. The problems are real; it’s not just me imagining things. I just want the problems *solved*.

[KaeBrae]

You're right. We do have real life problems and yes I've heard about using the same steps but they only work sometimes.... I will say this... Writing my frustration out on paper sometimes and also kinda like making a skeleton like outline of how I'm going to try to address the situations.....

[purl1]

good morning Kat,

I'm right there with you. I want to be back to normal again so bad. It really is hard living day to day with this awful anxiety. Right now I'm pretty much panicking because I have an appt. I have to go to. something I've been to a million times but my anxiety is making me nervous aabout it. I hate it and just wish there was an easy fix.

[a_work_in_progress]

Hi Kat63

You need to deal with the anxiety.

This is a good place for support

We are all going through something here.

I was scared and was running away from my anxiety and it was always right on my

heals. Until I finally got mad at what it was doing to me, was I able to stop

running and take action. (Its not easy and sometimes it takes more than

on try)

So maybe you could start there.

Try not to worry about what might happen because that is not going

to *solve*anything ( I have done this many times so I understand easier said than done)

If you can tackle the anxiety you might be able to find solutions to the

other problems that you are having

You got this

[jkl5500]

Why not do a little of both? Yes, you have some things to worry about right now. But you need a clear head to deal with them and make decisions about them. Use whatever you like - deep breathing, soothing music, prayer, exercise - to remove nervous energy, calm down, and think clearly. Then write down what your options are. If your relationship doesn't work out, list the option of moving out and finding your own place. If your unemployment benefits are denied, list the option of finding an attorney to appeal. Write all this stuff down, instead of turning it over and over in your head. This will give you a sense of control over your situation, and bring you some peace.