Anxiety about everything

[Kat63]

My life is falling apart.

I lost my job 7 weeks ago. I had to have a hearing a couple of weeks ago to determine if I was eligible for unemployment benefits. The state ruled in my favor.

This morning I saw that I’m getting something in the mail today from the state unemployment agency. I’m afraid my former employer might have contested my claim.

I’m supposed to move back in with my boyfriend next week. I’m scared now - what if this is the wrong thing to do? What if I’m making a mistake?

If all else fails I *could* go live with my father out of state. But he lives a long way away, in a place where I don’t know anybody and I don’t know how things work. Everything I’m familiar with is here.

I feel like I don’t have any good options. I’m scared of things getting worse than they are now.

[JAYnLA]

Do any of your options seem more comfortable than the others? I'm thinking that making choices based on what is less stressful may be a good idea right now. It can be so daunting when things pile up like this - but one by one, decisions will be made and you'll keep moving forward.

[kateba]

If the state ruled in your favor you should be OK. I've been through unemployment and just because you got a letter does not necessarily mean something bad. Unemployment always sends out letters no matter which way they rule. I am sorry to hear you lost your job, I've been there and it's not fun. Before you make any decisions about moving see if you got benefits. You may be able to stay where you are. If you have to move take your time and think about it. I don't know what your situation is with your boyfriend, maybe it will be OK temporarily. I wish you the best no matter what you do.

[Kat63 in reply to kateba]

The letter from the state agency was just something routine - not a problem or a nastygram. What a relief! I guess I overthought and let my imagination run away with and got myself worked up unnecessarily.

In better news, two recruiters called me today about jobs in my field in the place where I’m moving. And - a job I applied for a while back finally got back to me. They want me to take a test. This is good - it’s one step closer to an interview.

[kateba in reply to Kat63]

Good for you, I've been through that before where I end up getting wound up for nothing. I'm better now but my mind still wants to imagine the worst possible outcomes. Don't know if I can ever change that