spouse support?

[a_work_in_progress]

Although I know my husband is trying to help with some of the issues I

feel bring on my anxiety. I feel like if this

keeps up he will start to loose his patients with me and

start to get mad. Anyone else feel this way. Is there any advise.

[BeachBumBabe]

Your husband cannot fix your problems only you can. You cannot dump all your problems on him and expect not to be frustrated. If he married you like this, with this disorder knowingly,he should have been prepared, fault in both parties. He should've be ready to take on this load IF and only if he knew prior to marrying. Otherwise expect him to be short at times because it's not his problem it's yours but he has to help you. But at the same time as a loving spouse he needs to be their for you through thick and thin regardless if he knew prior or not. It all depends how often he gets angry and about what. And are you trying to help with your own problems? Do you have another source you can talk to in reality besides us here online? What I'm saying is, you can't have your husband be your therapist and your husband. Why? Because he's not qualified, he didn't go to school, most likely he already has a job, too much on his plate. Are you being too need? Too clingy? If so my suggestion is to make friends if you don't and talk to them about it, or family talk to them. But if you already haven't get a therapist or a psychiatrist to help you if you can afford it. In the meantime, go to clinics, seminars, or conventions about depression or anxiety. It seek out a Facebook group. I see you have a head start by talking to us. Or do a little self reflection.

You are now one, so your husband needs to be your wingman too. If your not the issue, and he's just unsupportive if you haven't have a sit down discussion face to face when both of you aren't mad and tell him how it is. Let him know how you feel when he doesn't care or get short, let him know what needs to be done by him, as long as it's reasonable he's your husband not a therapist, so you can feel better. Things like, depending on why your depressed, such as encouragement, extra true compliments to boost your esteem, little gifts, or kisses and affection, an hour a or two a week of reflection and past progress to see improvement and what page your on with your feelings CAN help and it's something he should be already doing. If he's get impatient from these things, reconsider the strength of your relationship.

Other things he could be doing that's not unreasonable is when you have a panic attack or nervous breakdown, he can say "hey baby you got this, your doing just fine! Don't you worry". Or if you have a daunting task, perhaps he could help you by reminding you the deadlines, giving you advice on which todo first but not doing them. You shouldn't be asking your husband todo anything for you. You shouldn't be having a mid life nervous breakdown everyday, if so you don't need your husbands help you need a therapist help. If you gotten to the point where you can't function properly without him over you, you need more than husband help. You cannot throw your issues on him, then he will be anxious then everyone is. Don't let your depression or anxiety be the cause of your divorce.

[a_work_in_progress in reply to BeachBumBabe]

Hey BeachBumBabe

You give me a lot of positive things to work on in your answer.

Thanks for being here