I'm myself7

[Myself7]

I know who I am! I know who I'm not! Most of it is very clear! I learn everyday! I grow everyday! In my faith! In my jobs! But I'm at the losing end with my family! I don't know how to deal with it! Idk how to talk to my mother about it without hailing down a thousand fires! And I'm not saying I would physically do anything, but that temper of mine, it brings out my brutal honesty! And when she brings it up (losing end...) I either tell her we can't talk about it or explode and feel that anger linger for days!

There's a lot to the story of myself! One day at a time!

Goodnight!

Myself7

[hypercat54]

Hi well the answer seems to be not to engage with your mother and not to try and talk to her about anything which brings on her anger. Distance yourself and refuse to get drawn into any potential arguments. If for example she brings something up and you don't want to engage with her just say politely 'I am sorry you feel that way'. Stay calm and take your power back.

I came across a YouTube video showing just how to do that. I will try and find the link and put it on here for you. x

[hypercat54 in reply to hypercat54]

youtube.com/watch?v=TpKO3IB...(Not working as expected?)

[Myself7 in reply to hypercat54]

Thanks! Unfortunately I'm the one who gets angry and all my mom wants to do is just get it off her chest! And I won't allow that! My mom is an amazing lady and if I drew any other picture, I apologize! Thanks for the link and the advice! I'll watch and take it to heart!

[Sunnidayz1]

I learned through therapy to create boundaries to protect my own mental well being. You can do this too. I also created a support system other than my family. I used to expect support from my family and I came to realize they just didnt have it in them to give! I also realized you cant change people unless they want to change. It's hard.

I get it. Just protect your own feelings. You deserve better. I hope this helps you.

XxSunni