My mother

[Rinalita]

I respect my mother, always have and always will. But does that mean that I have to take in all her emotional abuse? There is not one person in this world that can make me feel like I don’t deserve to live like my mother does. I have gone through bullying, heartbreaks, and yet she seems to be the only person that has so much control over my feelings. She hates me because I was the reason for her not being able to be happy with her secret lover all while being with my dad. For a moment she forgot I was her daughter and told me a secret I should have never known and she expected me to be okay with. Why do I feel guilty for not wanting to have a relationship with her?

[Hidden]

I don't blame you. I severed my relationship with my mom. Sometimes it's healthier to be on your own. ☺️

[Sunnidayz1]

Respect is earned & you are torn bc she is your mom, the one who raised you, the one who is "supposed" to love you but if she is emotionally abusing you, she is not showing love. She doesnt know how to love u in the way a child should be loved. And that is not your fault. It's something inside of her that cases her to abuse you. And how can you love and respect her if she doesnt show the love and respect towards you? Your points are valid.

[kenster1]

to have an affair is wrong even in a struggling relationship.to confined in you and hope you keep the secret is terrible.you should think of yourself more.you will always love your mum but not like the things she done but to stop the controlling you need to distance yourself a bit for your own good.

[Strongheartforever]

It’s a healthy impulse to distance yourself from her. Do not feel guilt for that. She feels none for what she did to you. She tore up her mom card, shredded it. Inappropriate guilt wastes a lot of people’s lives. Don’t let it waste yours. You’ll find better mother figures who deserve your love and time!