should i be in a relationship if i am trying to heal mentally?

[bingoluvr15]

im 16 and i have been in therapy for a year now for an attempt and im actually doing a lot better then i used to be. im in an intensive outpatient program for 3 hours everday after school. so here is where i need help. recently i have been talking to a guy that i have so much love for. he treats me so well and i honestly couldnt be happier. we have been best friends since we were kids so were just really goofy and comfortable around eachother. he is 19 and i'm 16 so a lot of people dont really approve but we have moved past that. my issue is, im trying to work on myself and i know that a relationship can be stressful especially while trying to balance school and therapy. my mom thinks i should not date anyone and focus on myself. and i completely get that but he's helped me through a huge chunk of my life and knows about everything that has happened. he knows more than anyone else does and he is okay with it. so i dont know if i should listen to my mom or do what my heart wants.

[Hidden]

It will be best to go where your heart takes you. Your mother’s reaction to this matter is because she cares about you and wants you to be in a better state. If you feel being with the individual is helping you and improving your life quality then that is the direction which may be best to go.

He already understands your current state and is ok with it. Plus he accepts it. That is a plus.

Find your level of comfort and head in that direction. A parent will always be there for you. Just try not to allow the person your happy with lead you away from the outpatient program or anything you are involved in to assist you on your current matter. Especially when it is really helping you out.

It is always ok to take a step forward or even a partial step forward. Just try not to go to far forward from where you currently stand. It can really cause things to become unbalanced as to uncomfortable.

Keep up being strong and follow your heart. As to stay healthy. 😊

[Txnut60 in reply to Hidden]

Follow your heart❤️

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Hi

I am not saying you should listen to your mom. I think you should take your time with the relationship. If you'll are already friends you can continue on that path and take things slowly. It is great that he knows what you have been dealing with.

[pam4him]

Mom is likely concerned that if a serious relationship suddenly ends it could send you back to another attempt. She means well. Perhaps during this healing time, keep the relationship with him as a good friend. If he's as understanding as it sounds, he will wait and allow you some time to be mentally healthier. Prayers for peace, patience and wisdom.