I made a post here and I got no advice, my family don't understand depression I'd just be yelled at for skipping classes, I can't talk to my friends because I'm not in classes, I can't talk to my tutor cause she'd tell me to go to classes, I reached out to someone I used to talk to online and we hadn't talked for a few months and the first thing he spoke about was himself.
I'm all alone.
I’m sorry your going through this. I know how it feels when you have no one to talk to. Have you tried a school counselor? Just know that you are not alone. I am here if you need to talk.
The last time I went for counseling was at the end of August this year, they discharged me because they said I was doing better.
i am here for you
i feel like what you going through
Sometimes is due to overwhelming stress or traumatic events in are life feel free to open up.
always here it helps my problem to help others
I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through all of this. I went and read the post I think you’re referring to. Sadly I think what you need to remember when posting on this site is what I always tell myself. That there are so many posts every day it’s impossible to read and respond to them all and still maintain a life outside of the site. It’s truly nothing personal. Hopefully you can find someone to be friends with on here who will follow you but I mainly use the iPhone app and I have yet to stumble across where it tells me what the people I’m following actually post in one place. I have to remember to go in and find them intentionally. I am sorry to hear you didn’t get the advice you wanted.
I can’t speak for you, but personally I was terrible around other people and specifically around women until I went to college. It’s hard and I can’t guarantee it will work but what I did was I immersed myself in groups. I was lucky enough to live in a dorm building that at least my first year was basically one giant group of friends with smaller groups that fit inside of it. It was one floor of guys and two of women. There was always some group hanging out somewhere, talking, playing video games, playing cards, going to eat at the same time, etc.
I took time to myself and they were encouraging of me but I spent as much time as I could manage and could tolerate with at least several people and slowly pushed myself to open up more. I’m still almost unbearably uncomfortable around people I don’t know well. My mind races, I second guess everything I say or write and I’m afraid to crack jokes because my sense of humor can be a bit weird at times and I don’t want to offend them.... but I’ve reached a point where I can have at least small discussions with most people without too much effort and find it easier to be myself in social situations in which I am even just somewhat comfortable.
I like to tell people you’re never entirely alone as long as you’re on here and you’re not even if it sometimes feel like it does. I would recommend taking small steps to push yourself to open up and expand your comfort level. If you’re worried about losing your friends or are too anxious to practice on them practice on strangers. You can do so publicly or on the Internet but on the Internet you’re probably more likely to find people who are unnecessarily rude. Find the courage and motivation to go to a party or event on campus and just practice talking to people. You might meet some resistance or rejection but it won’t matter. They’re strangers and you may not ever talk again. Start with a simple question. “Hi, how are you?” Is usually a good one. Maybe a question related to the event “hi, what did you think of (whatever)?”
These little interactions will hopefully help you interact with people and expand your comfort zone. You can try it in your classes.
I have to get back to work. I hope you feel less alone and get some advice that helps you. Best of luck! 🙂
Sorry you didn't get any responses on your last post, like you did get on your other posts. The site has been very quiet for a while now and a lot of the members who usually comment are not, or are simply gone. I hope you do know your not alone, but many here are suffering as well and not always able to comment, there are ebbs and flows like that here on this site. And just as a suggestion; keep sharing, and also read others posts and comments, and when someone does leave you a comment, then comment back to start dialogue and make friends here. There is no cure for this disease, and there is no fix for the symptoms, and no one person is going to have all the answers either.
Hi I too looked back at your other post then looked to see if you had replied to anyone else recently and saw you only had a couple of times. Don't forget it has to be give and take on here and you have to be there for others too. When you get a situation where more are posting than replying then this does happen unfortunately.
I noticed too that although on your previous posts you got quite a lot of responses you didn't come back in to acknowledge them or just said 'Thank you' a couple of times. You would get more people answering you if they know you had seen and appreciated their time and efforts in responding to you. We all need to be recognised and responded too as well.
Don't forget the more you join in the more others will know you and be more willing to respond to you in return too. x
very true....and exactly right. It is a two way street.... many of us who have been here for a little bit stop commenting on some who post as they never acknowledge back. I just feel if someone is going to take the time to give you their two cents......maybe share a bit more of what your feeling and as hyper was saying, you get what you give, and it's how to get to know others a bit more.
You r far from alone if ur on this community.Just reach out to any of us...post more..and we r here to help.We r definitely listening !
Do you have a counselor or therapist that you can talk to? Having someone to talk to I have found helps. I just started seeing a therapist myself and seems to be helping me.
@maskedjinn, I'm sorry you are feeling down. Depression tends to isolates us from those who care about us. Isolation can be dangerous because that's when our imaginations tend to run wild to extremes. That's why it's important to find someone who can support us, whether a friend, a counselor, a therapist, or a pastor. I know that it can be a challenge to open up, but I think just being in the presence of someone who cares, who can sit with you and see your struggles is enough. It's hard to feel like your parents don't get you. But I think their worrying indicates how much they care about you. They may not communicate their concern in ways you appreciate, but I pray that you can find people who can give you the love and support that you need. I want to encourage you to look in school, in mental health clinics, local church, also online where there are much wonderful resources for you like this one, bit.ly/2PffuyY.
Blessings,
Hi, sorry that you feel alone, I've been there, my kids isolate me as a way to deal with me. You mentioned no one wrote you back? When you first wrote did you write a very long letter? The reason I ask is because sometimes people write real long letters that some don't want to read...it can be overwhelming to read them. I've been guilty of doing that.
Don't worry one yaar world itself is our friend
I can relate. The feeling of loneliness can be overwhelming. Please speak with a counselor at school or at your local mental health facilities they can help. Have you tried mindful meditation? It helps me to get myself out of my own head. I hope you have a better day today then yesterday, and take care 😊
Nobody noticed...
NOBODY UNDERSTANDS
This has been going on for a while and nobody knows...
Alone and nobody to go to
