Having children

[Laez]

Hi. Does having children help with anxiety?

[Hidden]

Good question & I'm not so sure about that. For me a baby is so wonderful yet they do grow up & with that comes a lot of challenges. Are you thinking about getting pregnant? I wish for you a joy filled day. Love, peace,light & hugs for you!

[Laez in reply to Hidden]

Some people tell me to get a child and that will keep me busy and help with my anxiety. But i see enough people who have children and are dealing with depression and anxiety at the same time. So i am just confused what to make of it. Perhaps getting rid of anxiety is not the best reason to get pregnant.

[Hidden in reply to Laez]

I went through 2 PPD's & yes it is very difficult. Only you have the answer to that one. Take your time to think this all through. I have 4 kids & it is a big challenge but for me worth it. I wish for you all the best. Love, peace, light, joy & hugs!

[Elmwoodman]

I'm probably not the best to answer as I don't have children but my opinion is it would add anxiety and not fair to you, your partner or child. Work on yourself first and know you are ready. Asking the question makes me feel you are not ready. Just one mans opinion. Hope you find your peace and answers.

[Laez in reply to Elmwoodman]

You are right. It’s not fair to put that kind of a burden on someone. I would just be frustrated if it doesn’t work out the way i wanted to. Thanks

[Hidden]

I think it would be bad for anxiety, it is very challenging to raise a child.

[Laez in reply to Hidden]

Thankyou for your response

[ang95]

i do have anxiety but i don't have kids so i'm just gonna give my opinion

if you wanna have a kid to keep yourself busy i would say try to make yourself busy with other stuff first because that doesn't always work.. for me i feel happy when i'm beeing productive and i don't feel that anxious but having a kid would be for life time and challenging

if you really want a kid than maybe think about it ( i mean the reason of having a kid is love not to overcome anxiety) because i always think that a strong love/happiness that beat the anxiety level can bring you to a new world

[Laez in reply to ang95]

Hi,

Thankyou for your response. I totally agree with you.

[Jvicks]

I have two children ages 1 and 3. For me, having kids caused my anxiety. I developed a mood disorder after the birth of my second.

I am just a stay at home mom, but my daily existence increases my anxiety. Constant messes, crying, and typical toddler defiance stresses me out! Plus, I get little time for myself.

To address the question, having kids does not help with anxiety. (Although my opinion may be biased.) As parents know, having kids is wonderfully difficult! I am thankful to be a mom every day.

[Worried-help]

I have 2 kids. Just developed my anxiety a year ago. It's difficulty when you have kids because it's another life you are responsible for, they are expensive, can stress you out. But at the same time it's such a great thing to create another human being and have someone that loves you unconditionally and watch them grow into their own little person. Yes it keeps you busy. But if you are not ready and you want to have one just to keep yourself busy, now is not the right time for you. They take up time and dedication. You have to be active when it comes to their health, school and any event they might need you to go to or do with them. It's a lot of work. Have them when you are sure you are ready for all that.

[rach1402]

I can't imagine why anyone would advise you to have a child if you're not in good health, I would ignore that advice if I were you. Having children changes your life forever and you need to be prepared for that. If you want children I would strongly recommend getting your own issues under control first in order to be the parent your child deserves.

[rach1402]

Maybe a pet would be more manageable? A dog is a great companion and promotes a healthier lifestyle or something cute and fluffy like rabbits, guinea pigs, chinchillas, sugar gliders etc? I think I'd better stop before I talk myself into getting even more pets to add to my mini zoo! I'm going to a pet show tomorrow, I hope I can control myself 😳

[NCAQuilter]

Children don't lessen stress. They can cause a boat load of stress. From the date of conception, the stress can start: Is the baby healthy, will I be able to give this child the support it needs, can I do this for 20 or more years. The list goes on, and doesn't end when they become adults. I have 5 children, and was blessed to raise 4 of them. They are a great part of my support system. They don't 'get' me, but they know I need help and willingly give it. As they do for all others in our family! But, raising them stressed me a lot. I came into motherhood with baggage that the stresses of motherhood made worse. I felt I was not as happy in my motherhood as I should/could be. If I had known then what I know now, I would have waited until I was better before I had any children. I believe only a loving, steady husband and my deep love for them helped them grow into the wonderful people they are today. BUT, I've tried suicide twice. Thought about several times. Only the pain it would cause them has kept me from jumping. I went from stressed to suicidal after having children. They certainly did not cause it, my inability to cope with a normal, natural situation was the only cause.

Bottom line - same as the others - wait until you are better able to handle stress. Motherhood is a lifetime commitment!

Wishing you a future of wonderful children.