Today is going to suck

[Katelan24]

Woke up this morning with 500000 thoughts and then finding out that the two years spend with my ex cheated on me the whole time with several women. He was my best friend how do you go from talking to someone every day to nothing. And no one.... very stressful day.

[JEG325]

'Mornin' Katelan24. It sounds like you're a good person to me. So, listen carefully: You did nothing wrong here. None of this is your fault. So, start by not blaming yourself. You need to realize that although this hurts right now because you loved him, you are better off without someone who was lying to your face by tomcatting around. You will recover from this and go on. I'm sure you have other friends. Talk to them. Blow up their phones, emails or speak to them in person. Do whatever you have to. But, don't take it out on yourself. The goal here is to someday be able to look back and say, 'That rat bastard hurt me but, I recovered and now I'm a stronger person. That person he will never get to know'. When you're ready find another good guy and complete your moving on process. A personal favorite of mine is a long walk in the morning sun. It always makes me feel better. Lot's of love and well wishes from JEG 325.

[Crackerjack4u]

Hi Katelan24, I'm so sorry you are going through all this, and that he did that to you. I'm sure finding all this out, and you all not being together anymore, has left you feeling angry, sad, hurt, betrayed, scared, etc., and feeling like a huge part of you is missing at the moment. Healing from what he did to you will take some time, but I promise you each day it Will get easier. But please know that even though it's hard right at the moment, there is someone else out there that will love, respect, and treat you the way you deserve to be treated, and please refuse to settle for any less than that in anyone you choose to be with because you are a special person and deserve someone who will treat you as the special person that you are. The nurse in me also would like to say to please be sure and have yourself checked out for STDs that his cheating could have carried home to you. We are here if you need someone to talk to, or a shoulder to cry on. Hugs to you hun!!!

[Southwestsunshine]

I'm going through the same thing. How do you move on without feeling utterly alone. Im here to talk if you'd like. My boyfriend is my only friend so its going to be very difficult to move on but i know I must for my own sake. I try to remind myself that someone who will treat me right is going to come along some day. I just have to be patient. Whatever you do, do NOT blame yourself. There is nothing you could have done differently to keep him from fooling around on you. His infidelity is his problem not yours. Cut him loose and focus on caring for yourself. Take time for you, soak in a nice hot bath, paint your nails, spend time journaling or meditating. Take care <3