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How can you possibly live a life when your own family has this wonderful way of belittling you to other people? 💔

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Hey, i just wanted to say that i’ve been there rather it still happens to me every now and then. Sometimes infront of me, sometimes behind. Whenever i’ve asked my family about it, they just take it really lightly like its no big deal and i am overreacting. They say nobody really cares that much and neither should you. But ik it doesn’t feel good doesn’t matter how much of a little thing it is. But as long as you know who you are and you love and believe in yourself. You don’t need anybody’s approval to feel great about yourself not even your family’s. I am sure you’re doing your best I believe in you xx

In the past...from time to time..I can relate to that. It’s difficult. Sometimes I just mentally close the doors to them. The only peace I get at times is when they don’t talk. So I stood up to them. Sometimes I win the battle and other times I create a war. Not sure if it’s worth it.. it bites.. you are not alone!

Been living that way for a long time. Still live with my parents. Eventually you just sink into a black hole and wait till a day when you will have freedom.

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I grew up with that.....and I wish I had someone to talk to about it then who would understand what that feels like and give me support.....but that was in the late 50's early 60's and no one cared...... So I will tell you that it is wrong what your family is doing, and you have a right to tell them so. And if they don't like it.....tell them you don't like being talked about that way either. You have a lot of support here....And another thing I did was not stand there and take it any more after I was stronger because I got help....acting out or reacting does not help....but staying calm... and making the choice not to take the abuse by walking away from them....build boundaries that they are not allowed to cross....think about all the good things you are....and bad people, even if they are family, will often take out their short comings on those of us who they thing will take their abuse....don't take it. Let them own their own crap and don't let them dump it on you.

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kenster1

hi its not nice when this happens to you im sorry that your facing this situation.the exact same thing happened to me I lived at home with my parents till I was 37 mainly to help look after my mum.me and my dad kept having disagreements about it and he refered to me as the basxxxd child among other hurtful comments to people he spoke with.just keep your distance for a while and just concentrate on your own life and don't give anyone a chance to talk you down.

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