I just realised how badly I need therapy...and there is a one year waiting list here where I live.
Would it be possible, you think, to have an online group that had regular meetings once a week?
I just had an incident with my partner, and my bowels are getting SERIOUSLY messed up. Since 5 years ago, when the sepsis incident occurred, anytime there’s the slightest incidation of rehospitalisation for Chris, I go into a silent panic. I’ve watched myself become self-absorbed and brooding...and I CANNOT get out of it.
What do you think? Regular text meetings on Skype or G+ ?
I know we can do it. Please...I DESPERATELY need something.
I do not know what to do.
I would say that because people like to come and go on this site because they need to in order to cope with the subject matter, I don't know how well setting up a group meeting would go. I wish you the best though in your efforts, but I will say we seem to be doing pretty well here with posting and commenting as everyday mostly different people come and go. With all these members it's still mostly a site where people prefer to just read comments.
Maybe I’ll do a little research online & post the results. Be careful of 12 step programs...AA may work for some, but is not the cure-all it seems to be.
Perhaps I should write a warning post of the pitfalls of self-help groups. It’ll be an informative article, with a plethora of references. I am told I am overthorough.
12 step groups are what they are really. They are not a cult, and not a religion, although they were started in a church basement by a nun and I believe a priest, and then Dr. Bob and Bill wrote the Big Book on AA and it became a more organized group. The one thing about AA is that for real world in person support that does not cost you money...you can get that in some meetings. I didn't care for the religious aspect many meetings took on as it is AA's policy to not take on any one religion, or political platform. The other thing is when I was there, they didn't like any 'psychobabble'...and didn't support mental health help....all you had to do was do the 'work', meaning; do the 12 steps and turn it over, and let go ..... I didn't agree with not having help with mental health issues, since I drank to self medicate my depression and numb my child abuse. The rooms were full of what is called 'Dry Drunks' because they were still miserable, just sober.
Won’t debate the issue. To what administrator should I submit the post?
I was involved in politics in a State Task Force @ Age 17. Politics is about “power”, defined as control over other people’s lives.
Truth, on the other hand seeks to disencumber, and provide justice to the oppressed.
I write Truth, with research from unimpeachable sources.
I'm not sure what you mean about politics?....I think some of the admin might be listed in the pinned posts on the upper right side.
Thank you!
Why are alcoholics automatically sentenced in a drug court to AA meetings? That violates the Founders’ intention as stated in the literature.
I was in for 13 years, and have researched the subject thoroughly.
I know things that would horrify you...and I can prove them.
I understand what your saying and I believe you, and there are many, many things I could also share, as I've been in recovery for over 3 decades.....there were 13th steppers trying to hook up with newbies, bully's, abuse, I know...I've been told because I wanted to introduce myself as addicted to all things addictive at a particular women's AA meeting, even though I also said I was a recovering alcoholic. I was told I could stay if I didn't mention addiction, and then I said....what do you think alcoholism is....it's an addiction to alcohol...and I left.
I also had some very good experiences in the beginning of my recovery when I did go to AA meetings. I had complete strangers willing to help me with what I needed at the time, and they did. People are people, and it's said you take what you need and leave the rest.
Yes...but those who are vulnerable need a guide on what to watch out for.
Had a good friend who was reintroduced to heroin in an AA meeting. She was vulnerable. A dealer in the group got her address...and she couldn’t resist.
She is gone now. Really miss her.
I'm very sorry for your loss, and it's sickening that happened. Sadly it happens ....they are just people...good and bad. That's the truth of it. No argument here.
It hurt. Badly.
He & his friends followed me home one night, found my car, broke into it...& urinated in my gas tank.
I saw her every day for 2 1/2 hours. There was a Baroche Music Festival at Princeton we attended—I was thrilled to death to find someone to really do things with— then she met a man.
They were engaged to be married.
He had cancer...& she stole his Percodan.
Wedding off.
I waxed her car not long after...saw her once in Trenton... then I would see her with her dealer driving her car. She was stoned out of her mind. She’d given me a play she’d written. Said it would be amitzvah if I accepted it.
I didn’t know I was Jewish then... but somehow she did. She was startled when I didn’t know the word.
It means “good deed”.
I never saw her again. Her name was A. Kraft.
Thanks for listening. Lots of pain inside from so many places & people.
Loving much is a hard thing.
I know what the word means.....and it was a great gift of her to give you. Her friendship was a gift as well.....but I will tell you this from someone who knows the life she lived when using.....she was no longer the person you knew and loved, she had become someone else by then...your friend as you knew her was long gone before she left this mortal coil. And to honor that mitzvah, remember her as you knew her before her addiction took her....honor that friend.....she would want you to know that friend is always in your heart. Addiction is an evil on this earth and a plague that never ends. It only ends when we refuse to be taken by it.
That is exactly how I remember her.
When she started using, the person I’d known was gone.
Even when he showed up at her door, she’d call & run to me first... in the beginning.
The last time I saw her, “she” was no longer there.