happiness

[perkofawallflower]

What is one thing that makes you happy? Comment below 👇👇👇👇👇 (spreading positivity)

[dee_bells]

Going to the beach, lake or ocean

[perkofawallflower in reply to dee_bells]

I love going to the beach 🙌

[Hidden in reply to dee_bells]

Seconding the beach!

[perkofawallflower in reply to Hidden]

We can all be beach bums

[dee_bells in reply to perkofawallflower]

Let’s go!!!

[MrZee]

Feeling comfortable and at ease in a social gathering even if I do have Social Anxiety.

[perkofawallflower in reply to MrZee]

I love social gatherings and I can sympathize with feeling anxious in those type of situations

[MrZee in reply to perkofawallflower]

Thank you for saying that. Walking into a group of strangers is a fear of mine. Sadly my social anxiety keeps me isolated a lot of the time. Though I am working on this in my therapy.

[perkofawallflower in reply to MrZee]

I know that I sometimes avoid going to things because of my social anxiety so I will make an excuse not to go and other times I will go. It really depends on how high my anxiety is. Usually when I end up going I have a nice time. I am glad that you are working on it. I wish you the best in your therapy

[MrZee in reply to perkofawallflower]

Thanks. Yes, as you describe, it’s the same for me. For instance if I’m invited to a party and don’t know anybody (except for the person who invited me), I usually make an excuse not to go.

One of my big therapy items with this is that there’s so many social groups out there (MeetUps, etc). But my social fears keep me isolated. My mind is saying I’ll get there and it will be clicky and I’ll end up in a corner embarrassed and alone. I know it’s an irrational fear, so I’m working on this.

One area I’ve made progress is I don’t beat myself up or have shame for having fear because it’s a real emotion. Still, when I feel isolated and lonely that’s hard too. I’m hoping to work through all this. There’s a whole world out there. And my fear is keeping me from experiencing it.

Thanks again for your well wishes.

Best,

MZ

[perkofawallflower in reply to MrZee]

I have looked at meetups as well. I would really like to try one sometime but like you my anxiety does get he best of me and I haven’t gone to any events. Being scared to go sucks but so does staying at home alone, so it’s like being between a rock and a hard place 😞

[MrZee in reply to perkofawallflower]

You and I are both preaching to the choir.

I do like this site and connecting with people here. I just wish there was something like this that has real human contact. I tend to miss that.

Though I greatly appreciate your empathy. ☺️

[perkofawallflower in reply to MrZee]

No problem 🤗

[AyBrandy39 in reply to perkofawallflower]

I have yet to go to one good meet up and often have single friends drag me along so they don’t have to go alone. I have only met really really strange people or couples or people that are in a click or group. So I know it doesn’t but just want you to know your not missing out on that. It Is lonely so I get it.

[MrZee in reply to AyBrandy39]

Thank you. I sure appreciate the empathy here.

[Marshall64 in reply to AyBrandy39]

I have had the same experience from when I went. I was probably one of the strange people you saw. 😁

[MrZee in reply to Marshall64]

Nah, I have a hunch you weren’t one of the strange ones. Those of is who have social fears give some the impression we’re being inhospitable when in fact we’re actually feeling fearful inside.

Good for you Marshall64 for taking the risk to go. That alone shows courage. I respect that.

Best,

MZ

[AyBrandy39 in reply to Marshall64]

No strange is a singles meet up and your a couple asking me a single very odd questions. Strange is a Spanish meet up and you say you don’t like the food or speak the language or have any interest in it. Just examples.

[Marshall64 in reply to AyBrandy39]

I was just kidding but yeah, those would be strange situations.

[MrZee in reply to AyBrandy39]

I’d say it all depends on the social situation. I’m sure there’s some good MeetUps and social groups out there.

I’ve gone with friend(s) to some social gatherings and had a nice time. And on other occasions not a good time. For example, Hubby took me to his Alumni dinner. I had nothing in common with these people and found I could not connect with anyone there. I was extremely uncomfortable. I was depressed afterwards because I had a lousy time.

My goal though is to work on my social anxiety and meet good people out there to help conquer my loneliness.

[Marshall64 in reply to AyBrandy39]

This wasn't a meetup.com incident but I had something similar with the couple's thing. I played in a band and after we played I had a girl follow me to my car and she asked if I wanted to go swimming with her. I noticed a guy watching us and I asked him who he was. She said her husband but he didn't mind. It caught me off guard. I just said thanks for coming to see our band and left. It was creepy.

[perkofawallflower in reply to Marshall64]

That is a very strange encounter

[MrZee in reply to Marshall64]

Sorry you had to encounter that situation. Yes, it’s creepy. It goes to show there’s a wide variety of people out there.

Finding the good ones is work... but when we the good ones connect, it’s wonderful.

[anxietyandcats]

My cats 😻😻

[perkofawallflower in reply to anxietyandcats]

Yay for cats 🤗🤗🤗

[anxietyandcats in reply to perkofawallflower]

They’re the best!! One of mine is on my lap now 😻

[perkofawallflower in reply to anxietyandcats]

Yay my sister has a black cat named Salem and I am cat sitting her this weekend. She’s great and extra snuggly

[anxietyandcats in reply to perkofawallflower]

Awww that’s gonna be the best!

[MrZee in reply to anxietyandcats]

Cat lover here too. We have three of them. 😊

[anxietyandcats in reply to MrZee]

Wow 3? Amazing

[MrZee in reply to anxietyandcats]

Yeah, we have one cat that’s about 8 years old. Last year we adopted 2 kittens. They’re full grown now. Yes, our furry friends can be quite soothing especially when they give unconditional love.

[perkofawallflower in reply to MrZee]

Yay!!!!!

[Sillysausage234]

Thanks I lle have some of that positive stuff thanks✌🏼🧘🏻‍♂️🎶🎵😊

[perkofawallflower in reply to Sillysausage234]

You’re welcome 🤗

[Hidden]

Enjoying a sunny cloudless day in the summer. Maybe not as hot as it has been though.

[perkofawallflower in reply to Hidden]

Yay!!!! To sunny days it’s been raining a lot where I live

[Hidden in reply to perkofawallflower]

I'd like a little rain here.

[perkofawallflower in reply to Hidden]

I will send it to you

[Starrlight]

-When my kiddos are happy and healthy. -

When I accomplish something that was a major challenge and I feel a high from it.

-Having a vivid meaningful dream.

[perkofawallflower in reply to Starrlight]

All great things 🙌🙌🙌

[Mabel1scruffy2]

It will probably sound crazy but my dog. Since my husband died two years ago my little dog is always with me. I'm not doing well lately. I can't stop crying when I'm alone but shes always here for me. I think because the second anniversary of my husbands death is this Saturday. I don't want to make my grandkids that live with me feel bad so I hide it from them. I don't know what to do to start healing.

[perkofawallflower in reply to Mabel1scruffy2]

I have never experienced a loss of someone that’s been really close to me like a significant other. Maybe you can find someone to confide in and also maybe start a hobby. Keep yourself busy. Distraction can help a lot and surround yourself with positive people. Journaling also can help get the feelings out of you don’t feel comfortable talking to someone. I found that reaching out on here can be helpful too. I hope that maybe some of my words have been helpful and I hope that you find healing

[Mabel1scruffy2 in reply to perkofawallflower]

Thank you. I'm new at this. I really appreciate your reply. I think maybe starting a walking program might be good for me and my little dog. Thanks

[perkofawallflower in reply to Mabel1scruffy2]

I think that sounds like a very good start.

[Hidden]

Waking up to a loving girls voice.