Face Everything And Rise

[gilded_masquerade]

Sorry I know this is my second post today but I just heard something that made me think.

I heard that due to ones trauma (or rather the fact that it hasn't been worked through) in their lives it leads to fear or something along those lines.

So I'm thinking that because of my trauma whether it's my childhood trauma or perhaps the trauma from my last relationship I feel "out-of-control" because in those instances I didn't have any and now strive to have a sembalance of some.

So I'm saying all of that, if it is in fact the trauma from my last relationship, how would I in fact love past it?

I was in that situation for 4 years and 7 months, I know it's going to take time to work through. I'm just wondering how about to do it.

Dumb question I know and maybe this post is just a bunch of rambling but I thought it was interesting.

Thanks

[Agora1]

gilded, that is not a dumb question at all. I totally believe that traumas that have happened to us during our lives or situational anxiety can allow anxiety to become chronic

and harder to rid ourselves of it until it is addressed. xx

[masmu6940]

Hi gilded!

First of all, please don't ever apologize for multiple posts or any questions. We are all here to support each other! <3

I can kind of relate to your post, too. My own experience has been less of trauma and more of always being hurt and having very negative thoughts about myself. As a result, I am having SO MUCH TROUBLE with my relationship and trust in general. Deep down in my heart I know he's an amazing man, but my self-doubt and anxiety keeps on getting in the way.

So, to answer your question, I would do everything I can to remind myself of what makes someone great. Also, remind yourself that there is a whole lot more good in relationships than there are bad. Just because you have one instance of relationship trauma doesn't mean that they all have to be like that.

Also, I have greatly benefited from having a counselor to talk to. Even if they are just someone to vent to

- Megan