I need help dealing with my spouse of forty years. He has severe anxiety/panic attacks from his time in the military, which has become significantly worse in the last fifteen years. He has loss three jobs in last eighteen months, which has our family on verge of bankruptcy. He refuses to find help until Veterans Administration approves his disability and supplies him with help. Earlier this week, his attack started and he became aggressive, hostile, paranoid, verbally abusive. His behavior and demeanor was so hostile that my two dogs were about to attack him to defend me. During these attacks, his perception of reality is faulty. When others are present during an attack, he tells people horrendous lies to justify his actions, which means I am some horrible person and the cause of all his actions and attacks. People have since said vicious things to me because of his comments. I am tired of being his verbal punching bag and fed up with people believing all the lies he has told them about me. Occasionally, the adult children have been on the receiving end of his antics. Fortunately they lives across the four corners of the United States and Europe. I recently told him to seek medical help or I am gone. I am dealing with severe medical issues from a 2 year detail in Iraq. I struggle to keep going with work, home life, and health. His attacks take what little energy that I have left in me. I need guidance in handling this situation before he does something more stupid than he has all ready done.