It’s my fault

I’m so embarrassed to go out anywhere I have gained over 50LB I have no motivation to workout this is horrible. I used to be a college athlete 3 years ago I was in shape ugh I hate the way I look

[hypercat54]

Why is it your fault? Do you blame yourself for having anxiety and/or depression? x

[Hidden in reply to hypercat54]

Because I let it get this bad

[hypercat54 in reply to Hidden]

So you deliberately got yourself more anxious and/or depressed than usual? Suppose you had for example diabetes and you had complications and it got bad would you blame yourself for letting it get like that?

I presume if it's so bad you are too embarrassed to go out then you must be at least 30 stone? Is everyone you see slim and picture perfect? It's much more important who you are as a person rather than what you look like. x

[hflo24]

I understand your feelings. I also gained 50 lb this past year and it’s difficult to leave the house now. I used to be very active too. It might feel like your fault, but try giving yourself some grace if you can. Depression/anxiety is a battle, and it affects your whole body. Maybe read some body positivity blogs or books on accepting your body (Jes Baker has some good ones). It’s really hard, but it’s easier to leave the house when you see how many people struggle with weight too.

[Kkf08]

I have never been skinny/ slim or petite my whole life , I use to be athletic and did track.... life happened, depression happened , events happened, and I lost motivation to even eat ... I lost 37 pounds a year and a half ago- 2 years and gained all that weight back!!! I lost motivation, I hate the way my body looks and my friends and guys say “I look great , I’m fine.” I don’t even want a guy seeing me naked or touching my stomach.... if that helps I share the same as you, I lost motivation, and realized no one was helping me.

I’m still seeking help, but I started a new diet 2 weeks ago... I already lost 7 pounds... now I just need to workout, I’m forcing myself to get up and cook and prepare meals for work, I’m trying a new healthy lifestyle.... I don’t want to say diet, because I don’t want it to be a phase , but a life decision ...

Don’t let anyone force you to do anything ! When you’re ready, and find strength, just try little things by healthier choices... weight loss is 70% diet ....

I cut out almost all diary , I’m not eating meat , mostly eating greens , leafs , beans, fruits, nuts , oats ... I have found creative ways to make bland food taste good...

[hypercat54 in reply to Kkf08]

Good luck with your weight loss. Don't forget your vitamin B12 if you are not eating meat or fish. Also don't forget even thin people eat dairy, meat, chocolate etc. x

[Kkf08 in reply to hypercat54]

I’m a flight attendant , so I carry meal replacements, and vitamins, I have the B12,Zinc, iron, Vitamin C, D, E all in one pill... also I’m not a vegan or vegetarian ... I never ate a lot of meat to begin with....

Secondly ..... just because you are thin doesn’t mean you’re healthy.....

I’m not obese, or extremely big, I have a pudge I’ve been trying to get rid of .... but I’m extremely healthy, Everytime I go to the doctor , I have no health problems etc...

But saying even thin people eat meat isn’t going to make me change my mind about my diet ... I also still get protein in, and eat pretty healthy .... I eat salads and etc ...

[Want2BHappy3]

You shouldn't care what people think. it is what it is you can't live your life trying to make other people happy and worrying about what they think. That's Exhausting. People where I used to work at used to talk about me behind my back I could have CARED LESS, these people have no impact on my life, don't pay my bills. You ever hear the saying about throwing stones? Believe me everybody has theirs. So stop making what everybody thinks about you too important in your life to where you can't just live life.

[CJ2016]

I know that feeling, i lost 6 stone(84lbs) and in 2 years gained it all back and them some, i had a good year of being a health nut sticking to a strict workout routine and counting every single calorie.

However eventually my mood went down hill and the weight started piling on and i guess that caused me to start self harming because i hated my self so much for letting my self go again.

The worse part was not being able to stop the downfall of my self by my self. I never seeked help but i would tell anyone in that position you should seek it.

I would say just to keep trying, even if you fail over and over you just keep trying eventually something will click.

I am going away next month but when i come back i hope i can push my self again to try and get back into shape.

But just remmember its just as much as s mental battle as it is a physical one, the exercise part is easy, its what goes on in your head that effects you the most.

[Hidden in reply to CJ2016]

Thank you sooo much

[CJ2016 in reply to Hidden]

No problem, and dont give up 👍🏻

[Hidden]

You have to stop being so hard on yourself! Life isn't about our weight ! It's about what's in our hearts!!! I'm here for you!!! Sending you a little joy!!!

[Hello_Vivi]

I can relate to this so much but please know that it's not your fault. I used to be skinny all my life and I'm now overweight and the heaviest I've ever been and hate looking in the mirror or going places.

I know that these negative thoughts don't help my situation. We are not a number on a scale, we are so much more than that. Remember that weight loss is difficult even for those that don't suffer from anxiety and depression so cut yourself some slack.

Try little things, making healthier food choices or taking a walk. Be proud of yourself for the small accomplishments but don't beat yourself up for your weight.

[Hidden in reply to Hello_Vivi]

Thank you soo much

[kaydeLOD]

relax! don't beat yourself down, I also was 135 pounds 2 years ago depression made me gain 50pounds too I have learn to love myself the way I look right now but if ur not comfortable with how you look try to work on it little by little don't try to see results fast just give it some time. don't let it ruin your life.

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