Relationship with addict parent. *trigger warning some detailed abuse*

[Tryinghardto]

What do i do.. She has been on drugs my whole life gotten me arrested 3× for her drugs before age 18.got me into horrible things and blames me for everything she does even when she threatens suicide. I have an amazing job now its been 9 years since the state took me away this job is turning into my career but right now she is sick from all the drug use. Her organs are shutting down her blood cell count is off. im afraid she is going to pass without ever having a mother daughter relationship. (Grandma raised me) what would you do??

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I’m sorry to hear this. Sorry for your struggles.

Any chance to have a chat with her and say how you have felt. Perhaps if you both could talk it through it may help with how you feel, is what I’m thinking. That of course depends on how well she is right now and what you feel about chatting openly, not to have arguments but to find out some things that you may like to ask,

Well done to you for getting an amazing job ! It takes hard work to achieve that X

[hypercat54]

Hi this is difficult and no one could blame you for not wanting any contact with her at all. I think if you feel you need to contact her then do so but get your emotional wall firmly in place and do not let her poison your life again.

It has to be your choice but whatever decision you make will be the right one for you. Let us know how you get on please. x

[CazO46]

Hi, I can understand you have very mixed emotions about what to do about your mother. My experience is that my dad was as alcoholic and I had no contact with him for years. He became very unwell and my sister arranged for us to see him. Although at first I felt angry because he hadnt been a good father, in the end we had time to talk, he asked for forgiveness. When he died there were no regrets about things unsaid . You can't change the past and the reality is it doesn't sound as though she was able to be the mother you deserved. You could perhaps think about what you would like her to hear from you, she may not be able to understand or see your point of view, I don't know , be maybe it's important for you to say what you would like to to her. Best of luck X

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I agree. Say what you need to say.

Blessings, Tryinghardto.