No energy

[V-person]

When you feel like a single parent but your not and your depressed... I have no energy, I muster it because I have to be a mom. I literally do everything for my child and almost everything for my husband, even throw his wrappers away on the counter with a trashcan 3 ft away. Then I get so tired I will take 2 days off and all I get is mean ride comments from him on how lazy and horrible I am for not cleaning, cooking and not getting his work stuff ready for him. I don't have support at home and it makes my depression worse! I needed to vent thank you!

[fauxartist]

Then just stop doing everything. Give him a list of things he can do himself and you won't be doing them anymore if your going to be treated like that. Let him know the wrappers can sit right where he left them, or he can move the trash can closer to him. I would never put up with that crap...nobody should. Oh ....and let him know your off the clock at certain times and days...so he's an adult, he can work out his own meals etc....your unavailable.

[V-person in reply to fauxartist]

Thanks for the empowering words maybe some of it I can use but I think it will take some time for him to be more open.

[fauxartist in reply to V-person]

I'll tell ya....it's easy to enable and do everything we can for those we love...but we create monsters by not putting our own boundaries in place...like allowing them to clean up their own mess...let them make a sandwich sometimes...and you don't cook...change their own sheets, .... my partner enables...and I can't stand it....how else do kids learn independence and how to take care of themselves in the real world if everything is done for them....and your lucky to get a thank you....

[V-person in reply to fauxartist]

This is true. That's just the thing he has never been enabled he was always made to stand on his own 2 feet from a very young age. He just expects perfection, when someone says they are going to be a stay at home wife and mom you better be the best dang one ever.