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HEART-STRING-YANKING :(

today i have to work with my recent ex who left me for a younger woman. i HAVE to show up - i cannot call out!! i am already trying to control the anxious stomach ache and nervous head pound. i have no choice but to put a big fake smile on and grin n bare... but i am a mess. i have to keep it together. i cannot cry in our workplace. anyone? anyone at all understand??

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Oh you poor thing especially when things are still so raw. If there is no choice then it will be a case of holding your head high and putting a brave face on it. It won't be this hard again. He is probably feeling anxious too, especially if he left you and knows you were hurt. I think lots of people have had experiences they would rather forget or not deal with. You hang in there you can do it xx

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thank you

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<3 <3 <3 punkrockhippie -- Lots of love & best wishes to you. <3 xx :)

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I'm sorry, that is truly h*ll to have to go through...it's bad enough on your own, but to have to work in the same place...the best advice I can think of is...there's bathroom stalls , make-up for red eyes...and fake it till you make it. Believe me...this person is not suffering....so don't give them your power....your hurt and broken hearted and maybe think about how they are not....that alone might get you through the day. Relationships at work or in a group of the same friends is always complicated...but it happens. Your wounds are very fresh and raw...don't pour salt into them by thinking about what you could have done differently....think about what you need to do to survive this. I suggest therapy...and grief and loss being your topic...stay away from self blame...it takes two to make a relationship. Leave out the blame for now...just focus on your surviving the day, and what you did to do it to survive the next day and so on.

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I am really srry to hear what u are goin through I myself is a mess but jus be strong u will get pass this looks ain't all he was real from the start he was still searching she is only for a matter of time too they both goin to u glowing u will be ok don't get but it's ok to sad cry too life is tricky always he left u so ur heart is clean and free who knows he leave cuz he is near dated not u he jus want to look good now u will be fin believe mi

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great that your reaching out and sharing Geoandy....that's good to hear from you...this really always helps me a lot when I'm here.

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We are all thinking of you. Pm anytime.

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thank you

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Thinking of you. Such a very hard thing to have to do. I had a similar

Thing a good few years ago now. I did it. Wasn’t easy, it’s amazing where we find strength when we really need to, Now it’s history for me, will be for you soon, hang in there 🌺

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thank you

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