Summer jitters

[Aorli]

So my brother is like my best friend and he is getting married next summer. They want my daughter and I to be a part of the wedding as a flower girl and a bridesmaid. I feel with anxiety still much better than a year ago when it started up. I am a little panicky now because it feels like a lot of pressure having to be a part of it all and a very long day. I can't let him down and back out because I want to be a part of it and it would break his heart but of course I'm already worried about my anxiety kicking in during and i don't like the uncertainty of how I'll feel. It's June of 2019 so next year so I have plenty of time to get to where I want to be with my anxiety just a little anxious pray for me and wish me luck.

[Aorli]

That's what I wanted was to just attend but he really needs us in it for him my daughter will be a flower girl so we kind of both have to be in it and it's a huge honor so hopefully I'll just be caught up in the fun. Yeah I have no remember om not the one who's everyone attention is on

[Aorli]

That's true. I've never been in a wedding so I feel like there's a lot of pressure I'm sure it'll just be fun. Yeah it'll be interesting because she will be 3 she wouldn't be able to do it now haha. She's too curious and a mommys girl. That's too cute ^_^ thanks I did really well for her 2nd Birthday even though I was worried I faced the fear all weekend and did good.

[gogogirl]

Well, what a nice honor. Enjoy yourself- remember he's the one who is getting married, and might have jitters.

[Aorli in reply to gogogirl]

Right that's what I'm trying to focus on is just being there for him and all I have to do is be there

[gogogirl]

That's great- have fun and smell the roses so to speak.

[Aorli]

I Will most definitely try. I'm hoping that I'll have too much fun to notice my symptoms and I'll be focusing on my daughter being the flower girl so I won't be alone

[howard327]

Hi Aorli,

Did you ever ask yourself what’s the worst thing that can happen in this wedding? perhaps you feel like you’ll be so anxious coming down the aisle that you’re going to freak out and leave the room however if that were to occur you would just have to say that you had a real urge to go to the bathroom. That’s not unusual and it would be well accepted and nobody will remember that the hour after. So you have a way out and with that knowledge you will not have occasion to become anxious. I know from experience that if you have a way to get out of the situation you will absolutely not need to use it Go to the wedding and enjoy yourself !

[Aorli in reply to howard327]

Thanks I have a tendency to get really anxious and then when I'm actually tgere and doing it it slowly goes away so I have faith that having my daughter there will help and having my brother there and family I'll be okay

[howard327 in reply to Aorli]

Have a drink on me!

[Aorli in reply to howard327]

Haha sure will. I don't drink but maybe I should start just a little bit before the wedding

[Hidden]

Hi.

I had a similar situation last year with a wedding. I was absolutely dreading it and sooooo anxious.

The wedding day came and went...none of the things I worried about happened, the day was lovely, no one was bothered , well only about themselves and having a good time...I got really anxious for months leading up to it...It was all ok. I’m sure it will be for you too...

All good wishes xx

[Aorli in reply to Hidden]

Thank you I agree I just get nervous about being anxious then when the situation comes I go this isn't so bad

[Hidden in reply to Aorli]

I know. We can’t help getting anxious,

I’m sending vibes to you for strength to cope, leading up to the wedding, as no doubt you will get anxious.....🌺🌺🌺

[Aorli in reply to Hidden]

Thanks much the more I think about how fun in can be the more I get excited

[Hidden in reply to Aorli]

Yes, you will possibly go through different emotions, don’t beat yourself up about it. It will be fun, although the anticipation can be a little daunting to say the least.

I’m glad right now your in the excited frame of mind. If you get anxious, keep telling us about tthis we can help 😊🌺

[Aorli in reply to Hidden]

So true. It's always the anticipation that gets me and I am anxious at first but it usually slowly goes away

[Hidden in reply to Aorli]

I hear ya !

I get myself in a state at times..

Good wishes

[Aorli]

Thanks <3