Opening up

[cinnamonapple89]

It takes a really long time for me to open up to people. Like a really long tome. Dating scares me because I always feel like the guy will think I’m weird for the things I don’t want to share or the things I can’t explain because I’m so anxious that the words don’t come out correctly.

I’m also having an issue at work where I’m being told I’m not nice and open and extra inviting to people. I am going through so much in my life and so depressed that honestly they’re lucky I show up. I’m just quiet and anxious so I stay to myself and that’s apparently a problem.

I feel like companies should try to be a little more empathetic to what their employees could be going through. At the end of the day we have 52 days in a year and we only get 2 weeks off (give or take) and I’m supposed to deal with life accordingly and be “on” all the time for the other 50 like wtf. It’s kinda impossible not to let emotions show sometimes.

[Celtic27]

Hi poodle pie thank you for sharing your story with us youve taken the first steps to improving things for your self ! Regarding dating youve got to learn to love yourself first as that will give your self the confidence to approach dating with the tools to allow you to meet someone ! Regards your problems at work have you a personnel officer or manager you can talk to the problems you are having at work ! Try reaching out to them and maybe you will get the help you need ! God bless you and all the best david x

[Dragon1940]

As the aforementioned post stated you are showing by posting on here that you are beginning to improve when it comes to opening up to others just talk to the guy & sometimes hey you don't need to share everything with someone lol trust me your not weird if you do not wish to share something. & well unfortunately companies can indeed be a hassle sometimes, like Celtic or David stated talk to your higher up about your situation, surely they will understand if you have some off days, I hope it gets better for you! Have a good day/night

[Windy101]

Being "on" is so difficult when depressed. Depression can affect us physically, like an illness. It's not just mental and emotional. Smiling and being peppy and energetic can feel almost impossible. Are you seeking treatment? If so, talk to your doctor about what's happening. If not, do you have a supervisor you can trust to talk to about your situation and getting help? Companies are not supposed to discriminate against employees who are experiencing these problems, and some have employee assistance programs to assist you in getting help.

Whatever you do, try not to feel alone. Almost all of us have been there. Just because you are not feeling well does not make you a bad person - you are dedicated and courgeous to continue showing up. You're also brave to talk about what's happening, and I wish happiness and good health for you!

[cinnamonapple89 in reply to Windy101]

Thank you so much