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[Tstorm30]

I'm being pulled down pretty quickly today is my third day not going to work. I just don't have the energy to deal with other people. It's exhausting having to work and also socialize. I work in an environment where socializing is important to making sure people have your back. Lately I have been isolating myself out of self preservation I don't want to get so Involved in people's lives that I get upset when they are upset. I've tried distancing myself not get so emotionally involved but I have a hard time staying objective. I want to work I have to work and unfortunately I have to work with other people. How do I be social without allowing my self to become an empath for others. I'm so good at feeling numb to my own feelings why can't I do that with other people.

[fauxartist]

That is a really tough one, I have friends that work in paediatric cancer wards, and for the life of me I could not figure out how they did it. They said that if they took every patients suffering too deeply to heart, they could not do their job, which is to help them as effectively as they can. You have to learn to compartmentalize, your doing a job, and it is to help someone, and you have to dissociate yourself enough to do your job properly. They told me that no one is made of stone and once in a while it's hard to not take something to heart, but you have to learn to shake it off because you still have other patients that are depending on you to stay professional and be able to give them your best.

I understood what they were trying to tell me after that, I actually had to use it at my work because I always had to deal with stories from employees as to why this or that was or wasn't done because of personal issues etc. You learn what to take in and what to let them own. You are not responsible for everyone else's happiness all the time, if your drained, you got nothin to give anyone else. So re-charge your batteries and get your head in a good place, your a good person to care, but you have to take care of you too.