Part of my OCD is that I can't get over hurting others. Sometimes, I didn't even hurt anyone, but I think I did and continue analyzing whether I did or didn't. Other times, I did hurt them (they told me so), and I have a really hard time coping with that. I can't forgive myself, and I think of ways to justify my actions - in this particular instance, I was well-intentioned but at the same time oblivious to others' opinions, and it really upset them (in other words, I thought what I was doing was right, but it wasn't. And in retrospect, I think the end result was right, but the way I went about it was wrong). I am having a really hard time coping with this - do you have any suggestions? Practical suggestions and suggestions on how to reframe my thinking would be much appreciated.
This has been a pattern my whole life. It's not so much that I have a low opinion of myself, because I know I have a lot of strong qualities. It's just that I think everyone else has a low opinion of me, and it gets to be paralyzing sometimes. I think this is why I can't get over it, because it makes me believe that they're right.
Thanks for your help!