Feeling so much better...but also confused

[Nikky_c33]

Hi guys! Well I know I’ve been missing for like 2 months on here😅 it’s because I’ve kinda been on a high of feeling so good mentally and physically. However, my abusive parents have continually tried reaching out to me through email, txt, calls, social media (even if I block them they somehow find a way to reach friends and my grandparents to pass along some message) it’s so hard even considering forgiving them and even when I do I could never have a relationship with them. I was in such a dark place 2.5 years ago before they kicked me out and I’m still just doing “okay” I have so much to work on. Part of me still wishes they would change but I know I need to accept the fact that they will never change their narcissistic and emotionally and physically abusive personalities since they’re supposed to be the two people who love me unconditionally😔 I’m trying very hard to not let them ruin my happy state right now but it’s so difficult.

[Optimistic_22]

Sorry nikky you seem like such a wonderful person. They are your parents but If there bad for you then it's ok to not have them in your life. You should not feel bad at all. If and when you forgive them is ok too. Life is short and all as we can do is be the best person possible and enjoy it. Your doing the right thing whats best for you. Thanks for advice earlier.

[Nikky_c33 in reply to Optimistic_22]

Thank you so much, I appreciate this and yeah you’re right I really need to do what’s best for me

[User1964]

Perhaps there will be a time in the future where you will have a better relationship with your parents. It seems for now you are starting to heal, and that's what your focus should be on. Yes, they may never change. You are doing the right thing by taking care of yourself.

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I'm sorry your parents have put you through all this. That you will not have to answer for, they will. I know forgiveness can be a real challenge , however remember when you do , it's for you, then some of the weight on your shoulders will be lifted off! I wish you all the best! XXX