Made a friend to reach out to fir depression on here?

[AnxiousGirl678]

Has anyone on here struggling worth depression and in med, made a good friend on here and reached out to them by phone number or text to deal with depression struggles? Curious more for an opposite sex friendship and one or both people are also married. Can a platinic relationship like this exist or have lines been crossed thorough that supportive time? And have you shared it with your spouse?

[Janieliza]

If there's no intent on either side I don't see the harm. Support for either male or female is important as it can help with recovery plus sometimes the partners don't understand so it's great to have the extra support. Would i tell my husband(ex)...yes I would but that's just bcas that's me. Sorry I'll just add...i have a fab male friend who is married and it's platonic yes...he spends more time with me as he's also my work colleague.

[Hidden]

I feel the same. This site is cool but I would like more one on one. Sometimes i would prefer a male friend too I guess for different perspective. Not sure if my spouse with be cool with that though just bc of his own insecurities.

[AnxiousGirl678 in reply to Hidden]

I have insecurities. How did that name you feel to not have a friend like that due to your husband's insecurities?

[Hidden]

As long as it's platonic I don't see why they would be a problem. It's always good to have an open line of communication with your spouse, explain to your spouse the site and that you jade a friend who really understands what you are going through and decided to communicate off the site for more support. Is your spouse the jealous type?

[AnxiousGirl678 in reply to Hidden]

My husband is the one who has done this. I have insecurities and anxiety. He did tell me about getting on depression med and getting in a group but it was in a kik chat and girls there had sent him lingerie and upper nude photos (which he said he reported and lingerie girl apologized and she's so his good friend) that i ended up seeing making me feel like that support group for him could threaten my marriage. He wants to have this safe place as i am a trigger to some of his depression stuff. I feel he has childhood damage and i am sad for him but sad for me that he'd rather share/practice openness and vulnerability with another female rather than with me but he says he know that's important and is trying to learn it to do it with me eventually.

[Hidden in reply to AnxiousGirl678]

This site or sites like this are support groups kik is where people who are up to no good communicate. That's not a safe place. Did you come across the app in his phine on your own or did he tell you about it. Girls don't just send pics in lingerie out of no where. Not trying to stress you just want you to open your eyes. My ex cheated on me so many times. I have heard every excuse in the book

[2stroke]

I would love to be able to communicate and listen to someone elses problems,i'm of the opinion as there may be answers in such, that would perhaps help mine.

Help someone--to help yourself.??

[AnxiousGirl678 in reply to 2stroke]

My husband thinks he needs someone outside of me. His family hasn't ever been off super to him nor has he felt this close to this female friend he's connected with four depression support. Especially when I'm hours depression trigger. I've done much to support him as my spouse and support his career and him in his mba school which he has 2 semesters left as well as taking care of our 4 children. How do I not have anxiety about this and show I can trust that he won't cross lines?

[Time4Grace in reply to AnxiousGirl678]

My dear AG678, my heart goes out to you. It seems to me marital counseling would be of more help to both of you. Have you thought of that or discussed that with your husband?

Carol

[AnxiousGirl678 in reply to Time4Grace]

I go sometimes. He has come with me a few times. He didn't like therapists. It may be something with a face to face and him openning up about things.

[Time4Grace in reply to AnxiousGirl678]

That's a great first step! Has your counselor asked you questions to help you decide what you should do about your situation? If you are seeing a good counselor they will be able to help you make up your own mind for what's best for you. It is your well being that is important right now.

Carol