Hi

[Nina78]

I need some advice.i have found out what triggers my anxiety.(what triggers it latley).my youngest 17yrs old wanted to be with this boy .like most teenagers do.cut a long story short she moved out at 16.she has shut the whole family out.everyone has tryed being there.etc everytime she makes plans to meet to talk to any of us she always pulls out of it.i know peole say she will come back round eventually.im agood mum.why is that i feel im not.and punish myself i feel like im shutting myself of to protect myself.from kicking of with the anxiety again.im determand i dont want to go down that road again.

[Honeycomb_]

Regardless of a child's age, they will always be your baby. She may be 17 but she is still seen as a baby in your eyes. Teenagers are weird, if you try to smother them though they pull away more. Whenever I was 16 I lived with my boyfriend inbetween my home and his. Maybe you could just leave her a message and tell her that you love her and miss her, maybe ask if you could take her and her boydriend out to lunch. Try to include the boydriend as much as possible amd hopefully she will come around. I hope you get through your anxiety battles.

[Hellandheaven-91 in reply to Honeycomb_]

I agree with Honeycomb,try to include Her boyfriend,so that you show her you accept her relationship.. if you oppose to that she will run away more and more.. At that age they feel adults and want to make their own choices, i hope you will find a way to cope with your anxiety,wish you luck

[Nina78 in reply to Hellandheaven-91]

Thanks for the replys.have try to in clude the boyfriend.but she still seems the same but hay hoy.just have to deal with it lol.atleast there is one blessing.im no way as bad as i used to be with the anxiety.just need to get back to the old strong me.take care.x