Wish i could just be an Invisible

[Ugarte1989]

It be lot better if i could just be an invisible.

[Rick1on1]

Hi,

I know the feeling - why are you feeling like this?

[Ugarte1989 in reply to Rick1on1]

lot of the time when i go outside theres always someone stares at me , dont like to be stared at. just like to blend in . have social anxiety and get panic attacks when about cross busy street or take a bus. but theres always people outside in the area.

[Agora1 in reply to Ugarte1989]

Hi Ugarte1989, people always stare at me as well. It's always been like that which can make you feel very uncomfortable especially since I wouldn't do that to others. The several times it got to me years ago I boldly said, why don't you take a picture, it lasts longer then I'd quickly leave and feel embarrassed as well as more anxious over making a fool of myself.

Now when someone does that, I politely smile and go on with what I'm doing. Take it as there must be something interesting about you that gets people to notice you. Take it as a compliment.

[Rick1on1 in reply to Ugarte1989]

Why do you think people stare at you?

Do you feel any blame for their behavior?

[Ugarte1989 in reply to Rick1on1]

When I was working ive was going threw harassment like had supervisors and everyone including store manager. Things they did where underlining things that any person wouldnt just notice . , had me being watched like whatever tasked I was doing or even if was just walking threw the place the store was quiet they would have employees stock me., everyone was against me. No one would talk to me even ones I knew for while.never could figure why they did it. Couldn't go talk to anyone cause they all involve and twist and make look like am paranoid or trouble maker. Especially if would tell HR cause they believe whole store over one employee. Been there three years and was one of there top performers. I don't know if that cause me to have mental break down. Cause before all this was fine. Have had always had anxiety but has got older I was able to cope. At this point am just confused.

[Rick1on1]

People can be real nasty sometimes especially when someone is different. If you can truthfully say that you have been polite and fair to others then the hang-up is theirs and not yours. There is thus no need to feel guilt or anxious about their poor behavior. How would you say you faired? Did you give them a chance?