Ughhh , I wish I could do something

[Loveiskind12]

My stomach is in complete knots .... I don't even know what to do or say .. I feel completely helpless right now 🤢😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

[NeuronerdDoaty]

I’m so sorry. I wish I could help you. That helpless feeling sucks. Sending you peace and strength.

Doaty💛

[Loveiskind12 in reply to NeuronerdDoaty]

Thank you 💜 ...My sister is in an abusive relationship 🤢 I don't know what to do or say

[Hidden in reply to Loveiskind12]

Having been there it would be best to encourage her to leave before worse happens. Give her a place to stay. Report it to police if you need to. Do something for sure or you may regret it.

[Loveiskind12 in reply to Hidden]

I have been saying stuff to her .. and told her to come here but she won't listen ... She said that she is staying there and that he is moving out... But I still don't think that is good tho .. she's just so stubborn .

[BrownEyesBlue]

I hate feeling that way.

I find lying down; closing my eyes; taking some deep breaths and repeating the same POSITIVE thing over and over helps me. I usually say “you’re gonna be ok. Everything is going to be ok.”

I don’t know if this will help. Even a shower or bath.

I hope this passes for you soon ♥️

[Loveiskind12 in reply to BrownEyesBlue]

Thank you , I hope so too ... It's just that my sister is in an abusive relationship and I'm just worried

[porcupyne in reply to BrownEyesBlue]

You’re words r a comfort to me

In my situation. Thanks god for this website

[Hidden]

I'm sorry. Is there something in particular you are trying to do? Did something happen today? We are here for you.

[Loveiskind12 in reply to Hidden]

I found out today from someone else that last night she was trying to leave somewhere with her baby and he was punching her and drug her on the floor ... My stomach is in knots.

[NeuronerdDoaty in reply to Loveiskind12]

Is there a reason she thinks this is the only way she should be treated? Maybe you can get her to a therapist. Something is in her brain that makes her feel that’s all she’s good enough for. Deal with that problem. Love that problem away. Cuddle that little girl inside her. Help give her power back. Only she can leave but this is just a symptom of very low self esteem.

[Hidden in reply to Loveiskind12]

Report it now. She may be mad but you can't do nothing until something bad happens to them.

[Loveiskind12 in reply to Hidden]

His grandma called the cops last night but he ran .

[Hidden in reply to Loveiskind12]

Even if she doesn't do anything it will be on record so they can catch him if something happens.

[Hidden]

Please act. I would've wanted someone to do something because I couldn't. That's why she is telling you

[Loveiskind12 in reply to Hidden]

She's not the one who told me .. someone else did ... And I don't know what else to do because the grandma already called the cops last night and he ran... And then today my other sister called the cops to have my sister escourted out of the house and she was mad that my one sister did that ... And then she ended up going back to the house anyway. She said that he is moving out and that she wants to stay there cause she wants her own space instead of coming to my house and sharing a room.

[Hidden in reply to Loveiskind12]

Only she can really save herself. Be there for her and act when you need to. I'm sorry you are going through this. People need to take responsibility and help themselves when they can.

[Loveiskind12 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your support 💜

[Agora1 in reply to Loveiskind12]

Kay, I know your heart is breaking in two for your sister but we can only do

so much when an adult will not accept help but decides to keep going back into

the fire. It's so sad to see anyone in that situation. It's taking it's toll on you.

It might be a good idea for you to see professional help to help you with your

overwhelming emotions before you get sick. Nothing would be nicer than to

see your sister in a safe place but until she is ready, take care of yourself so you

can be there for her should she choose to finally leave. xx

[Loveiskind12 in reply to Agora1]

Ughhh Agora , I just can't handle stuff like this ! 😭 My stomach can't handle it , my heart definitely can't 😢 thank you for your words 💜

[Agora1 in reply to Loveiskind12]

I understand Kay more than you think. I have a daughter in her 20's who is

basically dying from Anorexia. Nothing I have said to her in the past 10 years

will convince her that she needs help. She refuses and I was getting sicker and

sicker. With therapy for myself, I understand that I cannot control her actions

or decisions but I can control how I react to her way of living. It's not easy by

any means. She calls me, she comes over and is so beaten down by this disease

that I fear she will die soon because of her not wanting to reach out.

My thoughts are with you. xx

[Loveiskind12 in reply to Agora1]

I'm so sorry to hear that 😢 😔I can only imagine what your heart feels like as a mother...I hope she will be okay and I pray she will get help soon 🙏 I've heard about that disease , one of my co-workers and her daughter has anorexia. So sad 😢 thank you for reaching out to me, Agora... I appreciate it! I will try to just trust everything will be okay and hopefully she will know her worth and leave the situation.... In the mean time deep breathes for me.

[Agora1 in reply to Loveiskind12]

Thanks Kay, there is always strength in number.

Take care of you xx

[MRawPR in reply to Agora1]

Agora your a warrior and I admire your strength!

[56artist_]

Sorry for all that happening now agora and I both have a good conversation occasionally I too was anorexic 40 yrs since 14 now 57. 7 yrs come Jan 2020 checked into outpatient treatment recovered finally but continue daily so never relapse healing is real anorexic are mentally ill and was taken by the illness just like cancer we never ask for it it took us I have PTSD from childhood abuse but I have healed my mind that abuse was why I became ill in first place I have put the broken glass I once was back together I remain scared but it will not define the woman I have become today after recovery I feel so for agora1 daughter my poor 83 yr old mother but recovery is wonderful so many see that I am strong and how it is possible but I am no different than anyone of you I am a fighter I guess and have the best mental therapist and doctor ever but really don't have any to compare too as never truly sought treatment until 7 yrs ago death from anorexia was taking me but I ask for help and put my trust in strangers hands therapist etc and free but we each can become a fighter we only have to believe in ourselves no matter how rough the journey to recovery it is worth it all the fight coming from a very abusive father and a precious saint mother 40 yrs he totorted all of us 4 kids mom and physical sexual violent man I know what they can do to a woman so no one needs to put up with that crap many women are battered daily and killed why she wants to stay just for her space time will come she and baby will have it but her life is at risk and baby's she needs to leave to save herself and baby only to start a new life soon after she is away from that man I have no respect for any type of abuse been there most of my life done done done no more abuse for me wiser now you can not make her listen but she may appreciate you saving her with all you have done already listening being there but think of you and how it effects you some things are out of our hands you need to be well too love hugs for you and fsmily

[Agora1 in reply to 56artist_]

Thanks you 56artist for you strength and encouraging words. When my daughter came to

me at 2y.o. as a foster child, she was already broken. She had been left abandoned in her

crib for 2 years by her parents who were drug users as well as her seeing physical abuse

between the parents. From the moment she came to me, I held her and rocked her and sang

to her and it wasn't long before she was calling me "mommy". She was starved for love and

attention. The weekly visitations with her birth mother continued for 8 years. Bouncing back and forth every week caused her to have separation anxiety. PTSD was never mentioned but I'm sure that was in place already.

Right from the beginning she was being seen by a Pediatric woman psychiatrist who I

remember warning me to be careful for signs because she could become Anorexic.

At 2y.o. she recognized how serious her mental abuse had been. Unfortunately, even

with all the therapy and doctor's help the warning came true. During all this time our

bond only became closer but until she decides that she needs the help, I can only love her,

comfort her and be by her side. She has a long road ahead of her with no friends because

of her illness. Thank you artist for all the love you have shown to me and my daughter. xx

[56artist_ in reply to Agora1]

You are so welcome we had spoke of these things earlier about her I feel so much compassion for both of you I know how horrible anorexia is it destroys minds and body I am so sorry I wish the healing would come for her and you my poor wonderful mother was you and watching me die,for many yrs but I made it I wish same for your daughter so much

[Agora1 in reply to 56artist_]

Your story means a lot to many of us. It encourages and lets us remember

to never give up. Enjoy your evening artist xx

[56artist_ in reply to Agora1]

Agora the story of your daughter is so sad I know trauma as a child effects you into adulthood but I know recovery is real I am proof it was a deadly journey anorexia how does someone live 40 yrs like me without dying from it well I did I am no better no different than anyone else but my mental doctors tell me I am and anyone is 90% of their recovery only 10% is the treatment they receive so I was told by doctor I am a fighter wow never seen it like that so weak and frail during my 90lb weight at 5foot 4inches so sick a fighter ok but my weight is great now feel very strong but too recover and realize hey 57 and old lol well I made it and never thought I would see 57 but freedom from anorexia is so wonderful I know exactly what your daughter is going through I bleed in pain for her honey and you but anorexia destroys minds and is so powerful until you conquer it she is sick I had been there 40 yrs it is a horrible illness she doesn't realize how sick she is because this illness attacks like cancer she did not ask for it neither did I trauma she seen and suffered caused it just like her doctor said when she was so young it is not even about food nuts this illness is all about food it is actually all about control she could not control the abuse so anorexia took her for her to able to control her life situations most anorexic agora have been traumatized by something in past such as I sexual abuse dad caused from 5 yrs old till 11 and violence 40 yrs married to my saint mother so wonderful she is 40 yrs he tortured her and 4 kids us but I will not let that sick dad win by staying a prisoner anorexia nor PTSD

[Agora1 in reply to 56artist_]

Thank you 56artist for your comforting words. I truly appreciate it.

It's a very lonely disease as you know. I hang onto your words of success

each time I feel my daughter is defeated. Gentle hugs to you Agora xx

[56artist_ in reply to Agora1]

Love you

[Agora1 in reply to 56artist_]

You too sister friend xx

[Hidden]

I feel rubbish as well. Don’t know what to do as my depression has got its claws into me. Hope you feel better soon. This to shall pass (mine has passed and re-entered) sick fed up with the whole thing

[Loveiskind12 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you ... I hope you feel better too... Mine passes and re-enters all the time... It's definitely a battle.. but we will get through this 🙏

[Biniboy]

I know how you feel i have been feeling the same way for some time now feels like i have been doing setup all night and during the day as i am resting i feel my stomach cramped

[Loveiskind12 in reply to Biniboy]

Hope you are feeling better 💜

[MRawPR]

Kay... I am so sorry you’re going through this. I myself was in an abusive relationship and couldn’t seem to find a way to just leave him and get on with my life. The anxiety and sense of worthlessness one feels paralyzes you and you can’t think or act. Be there for your sister. It’s not easy because I know you fear for her safety. I hope and pray that she gets out as soon as possible before it gets worse. 🙏🏼

[Loveiskind12 in reply to MRawPR]

I hope so too 🙏 thank you 💜💜 sorry to hear that. Hope you are doing well now.