Having rough week

[Justswimming]

I've lost my job and the guy that I like doesn't think of me that way I feel.like I'm not making any progress in any area of my life ..I feel myself sinking into.depression ..I couldn't sleep for 2 nights and finally took xanax and melatonin and what I think was an old Valium to knock myself out I'm sorry to complain but I have no one else to listen

[PeeDeeAye]

Hi! My heart goes out to you. I know how difficult it is when you feel like everything around you is falling apart.

At a point in time I felt like there was nothing great happening for me. Everyone I graduated with was getting jobs and I couldn't - partially because I don't do interviews well due to my anxiety. Almost two years passed before I could get a job in my field of study. And I used to take pills as well to get me to sleep because I thought it was so difficult staying awake and being the loser I am. Why am I telling you this? Because since I started my account on this site it helped me so much to hear people are having THE SAME problems as I am and people are giving suggestions on how to deal with them.

So, at the time, I dealt with that particular bout of depression by keeping busy. So I'm assuming you're sending out resumes to get into another job as soon as you can- the more the merrier. I am certain you will get some calls eventually. As for the guy that doesn't like you; my personal opinion is that it's better to ensure that you are stable before getting into a relationship anyway so he doesn't matter in this equation. If you're feeling down then chances are if your feelings for him are requited, you would be depending on him for happiness which is not advisable. You want to be able to get your happiness from you as well.

I guess the way to look at your situation is to note that in life there are always ups and downs. And this might sound like some fairy tale piece of advice- I'm saying this because I actually don't like when people say this to me when I'm down, but it's true. Focus on what you do have and what makes you happy- don't depend on someone's view of you.

My job is really stressful to me right now (years later) and I'm at a low point but I can't let it stay like this so I'm doing my best to fight it out, hope you will too.

Wishing you the best!

[Justswimming in reply to PeeDeeAye]

Thank you.for taking the time to respond. I'm going to keep busy and I know eventually I'll get job. Your rt if I was with someone now I'd just be relying on them for my happiness and I know it has to come from how I feel about myself. Thanks so much and don't turn the stress at work in on yourself.