I can't do anything right

[irishmermaid]

I do not know what to do anymore. I am just tired. I get critised for everything I do. I even tried dying my hair just so that I could change something. Everyone just hated it. I can't hit the target. My test scores are going down. I just want to cry. All my friends are leaving. It is hard to be in love

[Hidden]

Well, you have a lot going on right now. Maybe you can write a little more about some of the things you mentioned so that members of this venue may be able to better understand why you seem to feel depressed or frustrated. There are always members somewhere reading and replying to posts on this venue. So write a bit more if you want.

[irishmermaid in reply to Hidden]

I am a junior in high school. Most of my friends are seniors and leaving forever. It is very difficult. I have been struggling with my math class. People say that when I'm too nice I'm fake, but when I'm kinda mean I'm a bitch. I just can't win

[Hidden in reply to irishmermaid]

Hi it's hard to know what to say to you without knowing your age. How old are you please?

[Kobojunkie]

Well, It is hard to love someone who doesn't even love himself. I am sorry but it is true. As long as you love the hair, it shouldn't matter what anybody else thinks of it. As long as you know you did your best on the test, it shouldn't matter what anyone else says of you.

You sound very young, so please start now building your self-esteem. It took me about 12 years to do that as an adult and this was cause I had racked up a long list of regrets and failures that haunted me. I had to deal with each and every one of them, had to pick up again from the last time I failed, so that is why it took me so long to do.

Don't worry about friends, worry more about you, and begin learning to love yourself no matter what anyone else thinks. Once you gain confidence, better friends will be attracted to you.

[gogogirl in reply to Kobojunkie]

Great post!

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Being a teenager is not easy....and the ones who are comfortable with their lives in their teens sometimes do not grow past that stage. Find your "lane", something you like, enjoy...even if it is different than your classmates. You have the opportunity to grow during the next two years before you graduate. You had some good replies to your post....

Its almost impossible not to compare yourself to others right now. But you were hanging with an older crowd. Look around. Bet there are a few students that are worth trying to get to know. About your math, take a breath, talk with your teacher and get some help from the teacher or another student who is doing well in that subject.

Although you appear to be considering yourself as bit of an awkward, ugly duckling now.....remember, you could actually become a very confident, beautiful, successful and comfortable swan just trying to get through this difficult time.

[irishmermaid in reply to Hidden]

Thank you! I really appreciate your help

[Hidden in reply to irishmermaid]

No worries, and I meant every word.

[Hidden in reply to irishmermaid]

Just wait when I need some help. lol

[chatnoirmd]

I remember high school being the worst time of my life. It was horrible! I even switched schools but then felt so lost. I had two great friends and a bunch of other people that constantly put doubts in my mind.... my hubby calls them crabs in a bucket. If you've ever seen what happens when one almost gets out of the bushel basket, the others pull it back in with quickness.

My advice is to try to block out the negativity and focus on you. There have been times that I've chosen to be alone than to have bad friends. It's ok not to be classified as a normal teen. I loved watching movies at home on weekends while everyone was going out.

I hope you're considering college, because I can tell you that things are much different there. You can truly find out who you are and find some awesome friends. Yes, there are jerks there but I ran into many more awesome people and made a lot of friends

Good luck sweets!

[Hidden]

I have spent years triing to do the right thing do what others wanted and also got no where until one day i woke up and said fuck it who the hell are they to decide what is good for me. Now i do what i want with no care on there thoughts and dam do i feel better. Dont ever let other opions dictate your life be who you are and damit love your self for it. I here if you need to chat. Tske care and live strong

[Antich]

Honey you are aiming for the wrong target. Set your own target! Do what you think is right for Y O U not anyone else. Ask for some help in math if not from your teacher then from a different teacher. Or look online. Make decisions with the intention of pleasing yourself not anybody else. It is hard to stop caring about what others think and it is hard to stop working for their acceptance. It might feel a little lonely too at first. Your acceptance and approval of yourself is the most important thing in the world and the biggest gift you can give yourself. You are beautiful, smart, important, and valuable just because you are, not because of what other people say or don't say. Never forget that.

[irishmermaid in reply to Antich]

Thank you. I just need to go for what I want. I lose sight of that. Thank you for helping me see

[gogogirl in reply to Antich]

I hope you have family you can turn to also. I too struggled with Math, and it wasn't until I was a {much} older adult that I discovered that I had a learning disability. I do have a couple of degrees, but back then I escaped taking math in college. Your academic struggles might be a basis for your depression/lonliness. I still have depression, but at least I discovered the base root of it. You are young- have you tried talking to a counselor at school? Also, yes, we can please ourselves, but we also do not live in a vacuum. Reaching out for help is a first step. Now, continue to do so in person. It takes a lot of strength to do this!

[irishmermaid in reply to gogogirl]

I have been diagnosed with a learning disability. But the root of my problem was my dad having cancer and dying when I was a kid. I have excellent grades. All As and APs. I just have to work a lot harder for them than most people, and I struggle a lot. Also, math sucks. So much. I'm going into writing or science. Not much math.

[gogogirl in reply to irishmermaid]

I am so sorry about your dad. Hey, having excellent grades is a real tribute to you. And if you are doing that- who cares if you have LD? BTW, what kind of LD is it? Hey, I am OLD, and am still figuring out myself. Unlike you, I have drifted through life, in some ways. I think I am still maturing , and I am old! I do have friends who are scientists, and they did have to study math in college.

[irishmermaid in reply to gogogirl]

Dyslexia and adhd. Darn. Math sucks. I am happy that you have found your way.

[gogogirl in reply to irishmermaid]

Well, I have found my "way" in some ways, but not career wise, and I have degrees. I do have a visual spatial LD with some social as well, and again I am a senior citizen!

[BonnieSue in reply to irishmermaid]

I have a science degree and worked in 5 scientific areas in a lab and you have to do math with science, I hate to tell you. It's very hard not to. Why not get tutored? Get help somehow, ok? So you know how to do the math you're taking.

I very much agree with everybody who's saying suit yourself! Forget about the critics and pleasing other people! Do what YOU want to do and pursue YOUR goals. Be your own woman! And hold your head up!!

[irishmermaid in reply to BonnieSue]

I am hoping to get a biology degree, so that would be the least amount of math. I will be getting a tutor for math next year, but school ends in 2.5 weeks. So I hope I will be ok. Thank you!

[gogogirl in reply to irishmermaid]

Is that the type of LD you have or is it a combination. The main event however is that you are grieving for your dad so I hope that you continue to have plenty of support your way.